Today, many women are standing at a very real crossroad.

One part of life is saying:
“I want to build my career.”
“I want to feel financially stable.”
“I have not found the right partner yet.”
“I am not emotionally ready for motherhood.”

And another part quietly asks:
“But what about my fertility? What if I wait too long?”

This is why egg freezing and fertility preservation are becoming important conversations, especially among urban working women in India. Clinics are reporting growing interest from women who want more control over their reproductive timeline, particularly because delayed motherhood, career planning, medical conditions and fertility awareness are now being discussed more openly.

But this conversation needs more depth.

Egg freezing should not be sold as a trend.
It should not be chosen out of panic.
And it should not be judged as selfish or unnatural.

It is simply one possible option and like every fertility decision, it needs medical clarity, emotional maturity and conscious intention.

What egg freezing actually means

Egg freezing, medically called oocyte cryopreservation, is a process where a woman’s eggs are collected, frozen and stored for possible future use. Later, if she chooses to use them, the eggs are thawed, fertilised in a lab and transferred as an embryo through IVF.

It is used for different reasons:
career or timing, not having found the right partner, medical treatments such as chemotherapy, or simply wanting to preserve future reproductive options.

But one important truth must be understood:

It is also worth noting that the process requires weeks of self-administered hormone injections, regular blood work, and an invasive retrieval procedure under sedation, not to mention a significant financial investment.
It is a commitment of both body and finances.

Your uterus, hormones, emotional readiness, relationship situation, overall health and future IVF process will still matter.

So it is not a promise.
It is a possibility.

The biological fact women deserve to know

A woman is born with a fixed number of eggs. Unlike many other cells in the body, eggs do not keep regenerating. With age, both the number and quality of eggs naturally decline. Fertility usually starts declining gradually after 30, with a sharper drop in the mid-to-late thirties.

This does not mean every woman must rush.
It also does not mean pregnancy after 35 is impossible.

But it does mean this:
Awareness should come before urgency.

Many women discover low ovarian reserve only when they begin trying to conceive. The body may not always give obvious warnings. Periods can be regular, lifestyle can look healthy, and still ovarian reserve may be lower than expected.
Tests like AMH and ultrasound follicle count can give some information, but AMH alone cannot predict whether pregnancy will happen naturally.

This is why fertility awareness matters even before fertility anxiety begins.

The emotional truth no one talks about

Egg freezing is often presented as freedom.

And yes, for some women, it can feel freeing.

But for many women, the decision also brings questions like:

“Am I doing this because I truly want to?”
“Am I doing this because I am scared?”
“Am I delaying motherhood consciously, or avoiding a deeper decision?”
“Do I actually want a child, or am I afraid of losing the option?”
“Is this my choice, or society’s pressure in a modern form?”

This is where conscious choice begins.

We do not see motherhood only as a biological event.
We see it as a state of preparation.

A woman may be biologically capable, but emotionally unprepared.
Another woman may be emotionally ready, but medically uncertain.
Another may want motherhood deeply, but not yet have the right outer circumstances.

All of these realities deserve compassion.

Egg freezing is not a guarantee

This is one of the most important facts.

Egg freezing can improve future reproductive options, especially when done at a younger age, but it cannot guarantee a baby. Outcomes depend on age at freezing, egg quality, number of mature eggs frozen, sperm quality, embryo formation, uterus health and future IVF response.

ASRM American Society for Reproductive Medicine. notes that planned oocyte cryopreservation has expanded for women delaying childbearing, but success-rate evidence has limitations, and only a small proportion of women who freeze eggs return to use them.

So the right mindset is not:

“I have frozen my eggs, so everything is secure.”

A more grounded mindset is:

“I have created one possible option for my future, while staying connected to my body, my timeline and my truth.”

When can a woman consider this conversation?

A woman may consider speaking to a fertility specialist if:

• She is in her early or mid-thirties and unsure about motherhood timing.

• She has PCOS, endometriosis, ovarian surgery history, autoimmune conditions or family history of early menopause.

• She is planning to delay pregnancy for a few years.

• She is about to undergo any medical treatment that may affect fertility.

• She wants clarity instead of confusion.

In India, ART clinics and banks are regulated under ART Rules, and consent forms are required for freezing gametes such as sperm or oocytes.
This means the process should always happen under proper medical guidance, not through casual advice or social media pressure.

A Choice with consciousness

The deeper question is not only:
Should I freeze my eggs?

The deeper questions are:

• Am I listening to my body?

• Am I avoiding fear or responding with awareness?

• Am I making this decision from panic or peace?

• Have I taken medical advice from the right expert?

• Have I looked at my emotional readiness for motherhood?

• Have I spoken honestly with myself about the kind of life I want to create?

Because motherhood is not just about when the baby comes.

It is also about the environment the baby arrives into the mother’s nervous system, the couple’s relationship, the emotional atmosphere, the family patterns and the consciousness with which the child is invited.

Egg freezing may preserve eggs.
But conscious preparation preserves the quality of the inner environment.

And both conversations matter.

The Power of an Informed Choice

Delaying motherhood does not make a woman careless.
Choosing early motherhood does not make a woman less ambitious.
Freezing eggs does not make a woman unnatural.
Not freezing eggs does not make a woman irresponsible.

The real power is not in following a trend.
The real power is in making an informed, peaceful and conscious decision.

Motherhood should not come from pressure.
And fertility decisions should not come from fear.

They should come from awareness.

A Balanced Way Forward

Motherhood is a deeply personal decision.

It includes biology, timing, health, emotional readiness, and life circumstances.
Egg freezing may be one option for women who want to understand or preserve their future choices, but it should be chosen with proper medical guidance and realistic expectations.

At BTNE, we believe every woman deserves clarity before making such an important decision.

Not fear.
Not pressure.
Not comparison.

Just the right information, inner honesty, and conscious choice.

With Warmth,
Dr. Monika Singh Shubhaa

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Pregnancy does not feel the same from start to end.

Each trimester brings a different physical and mental shift. Your hormones change. Your energy changes. Your sleep changes. Your body changes. Your questions also change.

So mood changes during pregnancy are not random. They are often linked to what the body is managing in that phase.

Let’s understand this trimester-wise.

First Trimester: The Adjustment Phase

Weeks 1 to 12

The first trimester is the phase where the body starts major internal work.

The pregnancy may not be visible from the outside, but inside the body, a lot is happening. Hormones rise quickly. The placenta begins to develop. Energy demand increases.

This is why many women feel tired, nauseous, sensitive, or mentally alert during this phase.

What changes?

• Fatigue can increase.

• Food smell and taste may change.

• Nausea may come and go.

• Mood swings may happen.

• Sleep may feel disturbed.

• Small symptoms may create worry.

A common habit in this phase is checking every symptom online. One cramp, one food doubt, one change in nausea, and the search begins.

The issue is not awareness. The issue is information overload.

Too much random pregnancy content can increase fear instead of giving clarity.

Why does it happen?

In the first trimester, the body is adapting fast. Hormones like hCG and progesterone rise. These changes can affect digestion, energy, mood, and sleep.

Also, the baby is not yet felt. So the mind looks for reassurance through symptoms, reports, scans, and online searches.

How to support yourself?

• Keep your information sources limited.

• Follow your doctor’s advice for symptoms.

• Rest without guilt.

• Eat small, simple meals if nausea is high.

• Hydrate well.

• Avoid comparing your symptoms with others.

• Reduce fear-based pregnancy reels and stories.

The goal of the first trimester is not high productivity.
The goal is stability.

Second Trimester: The Stabilizing Phase

Weeks 13 to 27

The second trimester is usually more settled for many women.

Nausea may be reduced. Energy may improve. The belly starts showing. Baby movement may begin. The pregnancy starts feeling more real.

This phase often brings a shift from symptom tracking to connection and planning.

What changes?

• Energy may return.

• Appetite may improve.

• The body shape starts changing.

• Baby movement may begin.

• Bonding with the baby may increase.

• Thoughts around parenting may begin.

• Body image concerns may appear.

Many women start talking to the baby, reading about Garbh Sanskar, listening to music, planning maternity shoots, choosing names, and involving the partner more.

This is common. It needs understanding, not judgment.

Why does it happen?

As the pregnancy becomes more stable, the mind gets space to think beyond symptoms.

The body is also adapting structurally. Posture changes. The center of gravity shifts. Ligaments loosen. The belly grows. These changes can affect both physical comfort and self-image.

How to support yourself?

• Start a simple baby bonding routine.

• Talk to your baby for a few minutes daily.

• Involve your partner in appointments and planning.

• Begin safe movement if your doctor allows.

• Focus on walking, posture, breathing, and pelvic floor awareness.

• Eat enough protein and stay hydrated.

• Avoid comments and comparisons about body size.

The goal of the second trimester is integration.

You are not only carrying the pregnancy now.
You are adjusting your body, routine, and relationships around it.

Third Trimester: The Preparation Phase

Weeks 28 to 40+

The third trimester is more practical.

The baby grows faster. The body feels heavier. Sleep may become difficult. Back pain, acidity, swelling, and frequent urination may increase.

The mind also starts preparing for delivery and postpartum life.

What changes?

• Sleep may break often.

• The body may feel slower.

• Baby movements become more noticeable.

• Birth thoughts increase.

• Hospital planning begins.

• Breastfeeding questions come up.

• Postpartum worries may begin.

Many women start searching about labour signs, normal delivery preparation, C-section recovery, hospital bag checklist, birth plan, breastfeeding, baby movement tracking, and postpartum care.

This is useful, but preparation should not stop at buying baby items or packing bags.

Why does it happen?

By the third trimester, the physical load is higher. Sleep disturbance and body discomfort can affect mood and patience.

The brain also starts preparing for the next stage. This is why planning, organizing, cleaning, and making lists become common.

It is not just nesting. It is the mind trying to create order before a big transition.

How to support yourself?

• Prepare your hospital bag early.

• Understand labour signs.

• Track baby movement as advised.

• Learn breastfeeding basics.

• Plan postpartum meals and support.

• Set visitor rules before delivery.

• Reduce scary birth stories.

The goal of the third trimester is readiness.

Not panic.
Not over-planning.
Just clear preparation.

The Bigger Point: It Is Not “Just Hormones”

Hormones matter, but they are not the only reason emotions change during pregnancy.

Mood can also be affected by:

• Poor sleep

• Low protein intake

• Dehydration

• Too much screen time

• Family pressure

• Fear-based content

• Too many opinions

• Unclear medical information

So when mood changes happen, look at the full picture.

Ask simple questions:

• Have I slept enough?

• Have I eaten properly?

• Am I consuming too much pregnancy content?

• Do I need medical clarity?

• Do I need practical help?

• Is my environment becoming stressful?

Many times, the solution is not complicated.
It begins with correcting the basics.

Trimester-Wise Support Map

First Trimester

Focus on rest, hydration, food tolerance, doctor guidance, and reducing information overload.

Second Trimester

Focus on bonding, safe movement, nutrition, posture, partner involvement, and body comfort.

Third Trimester

Focus on birth preparation, sleep support, hospital planning, breastfeeding basics, and postpartum support.

Each trimester has a different requirement.
Do not expect your energy, mood, or routine to stay the same throughout pregnancy.

For Partners and Family

Pregnancy support should be practical.

• Do not keep giving advice.

• Do not compare her with other women.

• Do not comment on weight or body shape.

• Do not share scary delivery stories.

• Do not dismiss her stress as mood swings.

Instead, help with daily tasks.

• Manage meals.

• Track appointments.

• Support her rest.

• Go with her for checkups if possible.

• Help reduce family pressure.

• Learn about birth and postpartum care.

• Ask what she needs instead of assuming.

A pregnant woman’s primary job is to grow a life; yours is to protect the environment in which she does it.

When to Seek Help

Mood changes are common in pregnancy.

But if anxiety, sadness, panic, anger, or sleeplessness becomes intense or starts affecting daily life, speak to your OB-GYN or a maternal mental health professional.

Early support is always better than silent struggle.

Where Awakening in Womb Comes In

Pregnancy does not only shape the baby’s body.
It also shapes the baby’s first emotional experience.

In Awakening in Womb by BTNE, we help mothers become aware of what the baby is receiving through the mother’s emotions, thoughts, relationships, voice, touch, and daily environment.

The program guides mothers to:

• Decode trimester-wise emotional shifts

• Practice conscious baby communication

• Create daily womb connection rituals

• Reduce fear-based pregnancy conditioning

• Prepare the partner and family for their role

• Build a peaceful inner environment before birth

Because the womb is not just a place where the baby grows.
It is the baby’s first home.

Explore Awakening in Womb:
https://rebirth.birththenewearth.com/services/aiw2day

What Your Trimester Is Really Asking From You

Pregnancy emotions change because pregnancy demands change.

The first trimester needs stability.
The second trimester needs integration.
The third trimester needs preparation.

When you understand what your trimester is asking from you, pregnancy becomes easier to manage.

Not perfect.

With Warmth,
Dr Monika Singh “Shubhaa”

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Pregnancy makes a mother listen differently.
Before the baby comes into your arms, the baby comes into your awareness.

A small flutter.
A soft roll.
A sudden kick under your hand.

At first, it feels magical.

Then one quiet day comes.

The baby moves less.
Or moves differently.
Or you are not sure whether you felt anything at all.

And the mind begins.

“Is my baby okay?”
“Should I call the doctor?”
“Am I being too anxious?”
“What if I ignore something important?”

This newsletter is for that moment.

Not to scare you. Not to make you count every second. But to help you listen with awareness.

When do baby movements usually begin?

Most pregnant women start feeling baby movements between 16 to 24 weeks. In a first pregnancy, it may be closer to or after 20 weeks. If you have not felt any movement by 24 weeks, it is important to inform your doctor or maternity care provider.

In the beginning, movements may feel like bubbles, gas, butterflies, or light tapping.

Later, they may become clearer.

• A kick.

• A stretch.

• A roll.

• A push.

• A wave.

The movement changes as the baby grows. But one thing matters most: your baby should continue to move right up to labour. Reduced movement near the end should not be dismissed as “baby has less space.”

Do not look for a perfect number. Learn your baby’s pattern.

Every baby has a rhythm.

Some babies move more after meals.
Some become active at night.
Some respond to the mother’s rest.
Some move after music, voice, or touch.
Some have active days and slower hours.

The useful question is not always,
“How many kicks did I feel?”

The better question is,
“Is this normal for my baby?”

Medical guidance often focuses on knowing the baby’s usual movement pattern. ACOG,the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, also notes that fetal movement counting can be done at home, but the method and timing should be guided by the healthcare provider.

So do not compare your baby with someone else’s baby.

Your baby is not following Instagram.
Your baby is following their own womb rhythm.

A simple daily practice: The 10-minute womb check-in

Do this once a day, especially from the third trimester, or earlier if your doctor has advised you.

Choose a time when your baby is usually active.

Sit down.
Keep the phone aside.
Drink water if you need to.
Rest your hand on your belly.
Breathe normally.

Now observe three things:

1. Timing
When does my baby usually move?

2. Type
Is it a kick, roll, stretch, flutter, or push?

3. Strength
Does it feel gentle, strong, playful, slow, or firm?

This is not a fear practice.

This is a relationship practice.

You are building familiarity.
And familiarity helps you notice change.

When should you call your doctor immediately?

Please do not wait if:

• Your baby is moving less than usual.

• The movements feel weaker than usual.

• The pattern has changed suddenly.

• You have not felt movement by 24 weeks.

• Your baby has stopped moving.

• Something feels wrong in your body.

NHS National Health Service guidance says not to wait until the next day if you are worried about your baby’s movements.
Contact your maternity unit, doctor, or midwife immediately.

Calling does not mean you are dramatic.

It means you are responsible.

A check-up can give peace.
And if support is needed, early action matters.

Do not use home Dopplers for reassurance

Many mothers try to listen to the heartbeat at home.

It feels comforting.

But it can be misleading.

Hearing a heartbeat at home does not always confirm that the baby is well. Medical professionals may need to assess movement, heartbeat pattern, and other signs properly.

NHS, the United Kingdom’s National Health Service, and Tommy’s, a UK pregnancy and baby loss charity, advise not relying on home Dopplers or phone apps to check the baby’s wellbeing.

So trust your feelings.

But do not stop at feeling.

If movement has reduced, get checked.

What to tell your doctor when you call

Keep it simple.

Say:

“I am ___ weeks pregnant.”
“My baby usually moves at ___ time.”
“Today I noticed ___.”
“The last clear movement I felt was at ___.”
“This feels different from the usual pattern.”

Also mention if you have pain, bleeding, fever, fluid leakage, dizziness, high blood pressure, or reduced baby movement after a fall.

You do not need perfect words.
You only need to report the change.

For the mother who keeps checking again and again

Sometimes the baby is moving normally.
The reports are fine.
The doctor has reassured you.

But the mind still cannot rest.

This is baby movement anxiety.

It often comes from love, but love becomes heavy when it has no breath.

So follow one rule:

Awareness, not constant checking.

Check at your chosen time.
Notice the pattern.
Write what is needed.
Then return to life.

• Eat.

• Walk slowly.

• Rest.

• Talk to your baby.

Tell your nervous system:

“I am caring, not panicking.”

Your baby does not need a frightened guard.
Your baby needs a present mother.

A womb bonding practice

Place one hand on your heart.
Place one hand on your womb.

Say slowly:

“My baby, I am listening.
I will know your rhythm.
I will notice your signals.
I will seek help whenever it is needed.
You are loved.
You are protected.
We are connected.”

Then take five slow breaths.

Do not wait for a kick.
Do not demand a sign.

Just be there.

A relationship does not grow only through movement.
It grows through presence.

What you need to remember

Do not ignore baby movement.

Know your baby’s pattern.
Notice the time, type, and strength.

Do not compare.
Do not rely on Dopplers, apps, or guesswork.

If movement becomes less, weaker, different, or stops, call your doctor immediately.

It may be nothing.
But it must be checked.

Stay connected. Stay observant. Act when needed.

Lets Birth The New Earth Together..

Stay tuned with BTNE.

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Dr. Monika Singh Shubhaa

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Hello my beautiful beings,

Some retreats are not remembered only by the place, the food, or even the sessions

They are remembered by what silently shifted inside people.

Our recent 3-day Spiritual Recharge Retreat, held from 29th May 2026 in Mussoorie, became one such space.

People came carrying many things & Questions:

• Heaviness.

• Relationship pain.

• Family patterns.

• Emotional blocks.

• Confusion.

And somewhere deep inside, a small hope that maybe this time, something could finally feel lighter.

It was shodhan.

• A cleansing.

• A clearing.

• A return to self.

Day 1 was about the Physical Body

When the body stops holding what the mind could not process

The first day was dedicated to Shareer ka Shodhan, the cleansing of the body.

Most people think the body only carries physical tiredness. But the body is also the first place where life’s unprocessed emotions begin to sit.

• A tight chest may not always be only stress.

• A heavy stomach may not always be only digestion.

• A stiff shoulder may sometimes be the weight of responsibilities never expressed.

• A tired face may sometimes be years of being strong.

On Day 1, participants were guided to become aware of how their body was holding their life story.

Some came in saying, “I don’t know why I feel so heavy.”

By the end of the day, many realised the body was not against them. It was only asking to be heard.

One participant shared that after a process, their breathing felt open for the first time in many days. Another felt that the body was finally relaxing, not because everything outside had changed, but because something inside had stopped fighting.

That is the power of body cleansing.

It does not begin with punishment.

It begins with listening.

Day 2 Was about the Mind

Day 2 was dedicated to Mann and Buddhi ka Shodhan, the cleansing of the mind and intellect.

This was the day where many deeper patterns started becoming visible.

Because the mind is very clever.

• It can justify pain.

• It can normalise fear.

• It can protect old wounds.

• It can keep repeating the same thought and still call it “practical thinking.”

• But when the mind becomes still, even for a few moments, the real truth starts coming up.

This is something I have seen again and again.

1- Like, someone came with a relationship blockage and said, “My partner never understands me.”

But when guided deeper, the real wound may be, “I have never felt emotionally safe since childhood.”

2- Someone said, “Money is not coming.”

But underneath, the real pattern may be, “I do not feel worthy of receiving without struggle.”

3- Someone said, “I am confused about life.”

But the real blockage may be, “I have lived too long according to other people’s expectations.”

During the retreat, many such moments happened.

Resolutions happened on the spot because once the real blockage was seen clearly, the energy around it began to shift.

This is why cleansing the mind and intellect is so important.

Because life does not change only by thinking more.

Life changes when the right thought meets the right awareness.

Day 3 Was About the Soul

This was the deepest layer.

Day 3 was dedicated to Atma ka Shodhan, the cleansing at the soul level.

This day was not about doing more.

It was about becoming more present.

By the third day, many participants had already moved through physical release and mental clarity. Now the retreat entered a deeper space, where people were not just looking at their problems. They were looking at their soul journey.

• Why this pattern?

• Why this relationship?

• Why this family?

• Why this child?

• Why this repeated pain?

• Why this inner calling?

Atma ka Shodhan is not about escaping life. It is about understanding life from a higher place.

Many times, what we call a “problem” is actually a portal.

• A difficult relationship became a mirror.

• A parenting trigger became an invitation.

• A health issue became a message.

• A financial blockage became a question of self-worth.

• A long-held pain became a door to forgiveness.

This is where the retreat became deeply personal.

Guidance was not given like general motivation.

It came for the exact blockage a person was carrying.

And I have always believed this:

When the root is touched, the person does not need to be pushed.

Something inside them naturally starts shifting.

One Process that stayed with me

One of the most powerful activities during the retreat was the Anger Release Activity.

Participants were blindfolded and guided to dance to a powerful song, not for performance, not for looking graceful, not for doing the steps correctly, but to allow the body to release the anger it had been holding.

That moment reminded me of something very important:

Emotions do not disappear because we ignore them.

They release when they feel safe enough to move.

After the activity, many participants shared that they felt lighter, relieved, and deeply open from within.

This is what happens when anger is not suppressed or spiritually bypassed, but safely released through the body.

The goal was not to become angry.
The goal was to stop carrying anger unconsciously.

And for many, this process became a turning point in the retreat.

The children were held too

Many participants came with their children.

And this was not treated as a disturbance.

It was treated as part of the design.

Beautiful and engaging activities were planned for the kids so that parents could give themselves fully to the retreat without guilt or distraction.

The children enjoyed, played, explored, made new friends, and had their own little world of joy while the parents entered their inner world of healing.

This matters.

Because many parents, especially mothers, often keep postponing their own healing because they feel, “How will I focus if my child is with me?”

This retreat showed something different.

Healing does not need to exclude family.

With the right space, even the child can feel held while the parent heals.

What really changed?

The biggest shift was not that people became “positive.”

• They understood their patterns.

• They saw their blocks.

• They received guidance.

• They felt rejuvenated.

• They experienced resolution.

They remembered that healing is not always heavy. Sometimes healing can also feel like fresh air, warm conversations, peaceful silence, laughter, tears, and the relief of finally being understood.

• One person came with confusion and left with direction.

• One came with heaviness and left feeling open.

• One came with emotional pain and found the courage to look at it.

• One came as a parent and left remembering themselves as a soul too.

That is the purpose of a spiritual recharge.

Not to escape life.

But to return to life with cleaner energy.

The real meaning of Shodhan

Shodhan is not just religious or ritualistic. It is deeply practical.

It means gently clearing what was never truly you fear from family, guilt from society, anger from being unheard, shame from comparison, and pressure from expectations.

As these layers begin to release, a person does not become someone else.

They return to themselves.

That is what this retreat was about.

Not performance.
Not perfection.
A return.

Every detail was aligned, not randomly planned

One of the most special parts of this retreat was that nothing was random.

Every process, activity, flow, and even the food and snacks were channelled with deep intention, so that the entire space could support healing and proper resolution.

The intention was simple: to help every participant feel safe, open, receptive, and aligned for inner work.

That is why the retreat did not feel like a regular event. It felt like a carefully held healing space, where every detail supported the next layer of transformation.

From my heart to yours

These three days reminded us that every person is carrying something in the body, in the mind, in relationships, or in silence.

But when the space is safe, the guidance is clear, and the heart feels held, healing begins naturally.

For every participant who came with trust and openness, this retreat became more than a program.

It became a pause.
A cleansing.
A remembrance.
A reconnection.

May every soul reading this feel lighter, supported, and gently guided on their own journey of healing.

With Warmth & Love,
Dr Monika Singh Shubhaa💕

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Why This Day Matters Even More for Today’s Generation?

We are living in a time where the body is awake, but the soul is tired.

• We wake up and check our phones before we check in with ourselves.

• We eat while scrolling.

• We rest but do not feel restored.

• We are connected to everyone, yet often disconnected from our own inner voice.

This is why a day like Guru Pradosh in Adhik Maas is not just relevant for our grandparents or for people who already follow rituals deeply.

It is deeply relevant for today’s generation.

Because Pradosh is not only about fasting, chanting, or visiting a temple.

It is about creating a pause.

A pause from constant noise.
A pause from overthinking.
A pause from emotional heaviness.
A pause from the pressure to always perform, achieve, reply, post, prove, and become.

On 28 May 2026, Guru Pradosh arrives inside Adhik Maas, a rare spiritual window described in the newsletter as a meeting of Shiva’s consciousness, Guru’s wisdom, and the sacred expansion of Purushottam Maas.

But for today’s generation, this day can be understood very simply:

It is a cosmic invitation to detox your mind, reset your energy, and return to your inner centre.

How Today’s Youngsters Can Actually Apply Pradosh in Real Life

• You do not have to renounce your life.

• You do not have to know every mantra.

• You do not have to perform everything perfectly.

Start with what is possible.

1. Do a Phone Fast, Not Just a Food Fast

For many people today, the biggest addiction is not food.
It is stimulation.

So on this Pradosh, try this:

Keep your phone away for at least 90 minutes during Pradosh Kaal.

No Instagram.
No WhatsApp checking.
No reels.
No random scrolling.

Let the mind experience what it has forgotten:

Silence.

Sometimes, the real vrat is not giving up grains.
It is giving up distraction.

2. Use the Day to Clean One Inner Poison

Shiva drank the poison of the universe.
But today, most of us are carrying our own poisons quietly.

• Comparison.

• Jealousy.

• Anger.

• Guilt.

• Unspoken hurt.

• Fear of failure.

• Attachment to someone who is no longer good for us.

On this day, ask yourself:

What is one poison I am ready to stop feeding?

Write it down.
Offer it to Shiva.
Do not make it dramatic.
Make it honest.

3. Replace Overthinking with One Clear Sankalp

Today’s generation does not lack ambition.
It lacks inner direction.

We have too many options, too many opinions, too many timelines to compare ourselves with.

So instead of making ten resolutions, make one sankalp:

“I choose clarity over confusion.”
“I choose discipline over distraction.”
“I choose peace over proving.”
“I choose healing over repeating old patterns.”

One honest sankalp can become stronger than a hundred half-hearted goals.

4. Heal One Relationship, Even Silently

Not every apology needs a long conversation.
Not every healing needs a dramatic message.

Sometimes healing begins when you stop replaying the same old hurt inside your mind.

On this Pradosh, think of one person with whom your heart feels heavy.

• You may call them.

• You may message them.

Or you may simply pray:

“May both of us be released from this pain.”

For today’s generation, relationship healing is not a weakness.
It is emotional maturity.

5. Make Your Evening Sacred Again

Most evenings today are lost to screens, food delivery, noise, and exhaustion.

But Pradosh says:

The evening is not meant only for entertainment.
It is meant for return.

So on 28 May, light one diya.
Sit for five minutes.
Chant “Om Namah Shivaya” 108 times, or even 11 times if that is all you can do.

• Let the nervous system slow down.

• Let the breath deepen.

• Let the body remember that peace is still possible.

A small Practice

Here is a simple version anyone can follow:

Morning:
Before checking your phone, sit for one minute and say:
“Shiva, guide my mind today.”

During the day:
Eat light. Speak consciously. Avoid unnecessary arguments.

Evening:

• Keep your phone away for 90 minutes.

• Light a diya.

• Chant Om Namah Shivaya.

• Write down one thing you are ready to release.

Before sleep:
Place one worry at Shiva’s feet and say:
“I have carried this enough. Now I surrender.”

• This is not complicated.

• This is not outdated.

• This is not blind belief.

This is inner hygiene.

Just as we clean the body daily, some days are given to clean the mind.

Some will call it ritual.
Some will call it tradition.
Some will call it faith.

But for today’s generation, maybe Pradosh is something much simpler.

It is a reminder that you are not meant to live permanently overwhelmed.
You are not meant to scroll your way through discomfort.
You are not meant to carry every emotion alone.

On 28 May 2026, take one evening seriously.

• Fast from distraction.

• Step away from noise.

• Light one lamp.

• Chant with whatever faith you have.

• Release one burden.

• Heal one emotion.

• Come back to yourself.

Because Shiva is not asking for perfection.
He is asking for presence.

Har Har Mahadev. 🙏

With Warmth & Love,
Dr Monika Singh Shubhaa

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My dear ones,
Today is not an ordinary Wednesday.

It is Adhika Vinayaka Chaturthi, a rare and sacred day when the energy of Lord Ganesha becomes especially powerful.

I want to talk to you today like I’m sitting across from you with a cup of tea, no jargon, no panic, no over-complicated rituals.
Just the real truth about what today actually is and how you can truly make it count.

THE BIG PICTURE

Wait - Why Is This Chaturthi Different From All Other Chaturthis?

Every month has a Vinayaka Chaturthi. You’ve done it before. You’ll do it again.
So why am I writing an entire newsletter just for today?

Because the word “Adhika” changes everything.

Adhika Vinayaka Chaturthi is special because three powerful timings come together on one day.

Adhika means “extra” or “bonus.”
In the Hindu lunar calendar, Adhika Maas is the extra month added every 32.5 months to keep the lunar calendar aligned with the solar year.

This year, Vinayaka Chaturthi falls inside Adhika Maas and also on Wednesday, the day traditionally connected with Lord Ganesha.

So this day carries three layers of significance:

1. Adhika Maas - the rare extra spiritual month
2. Chaturthi - the monthly day of Lord Ganesha
3. Wednesday / Budhwar - the weekday associated with Ganesha

That is why this combination is considered rare, powerful, and deeply auspicious for prayers, new beginnings, and removing inner obstacles.

THE SCIENCE REVEAL

The Ancient Astronomers Who Invented This Day

Here is something your school textbooks probably never told you: the Hindu calendar is one of the most scientifically precise timekeeping systems ever devised by the human mind.

⚗ The Astronomical Truth - Why Adhik Maas Exists, And It Has Nothing to Do With Religion

The Moon takes 29.5 days to complete one orbit around Earth. That makes a lunar year only 354 days long. Our solar year is 365 days. Every single year, that creates a gap of 11 days, 1 hour, 31 minutes and 12 seconds between the two systems.

Over 2.7 years, that accumulated gap equals exactly one full month. So every 32.5 months, the ancient Indian astronomers inserted a “leap month” Adhika Maas to re-synchronise the two calendars. This is called intercalation, and without it, our festivals would drift backward through the seasons by nearly a month every three years.

The rule is precise: if the Sun does not move into a new zodiac sign (Rashi) during an entire lunar month, that month is declared Adhika. In 2026, the Sun stays within one Rashi throughout the Jyeshtha month so we get a double Jyeshtha. The first one (Adhika Jyeshtha) and then the original (Nija Jyeshtha).

This is not superstition. This is a 2,500-year-old astronomical algorithm. And our ancestors, rather than treating this correction as a boring technical patch, chose to make it the most sacred month of the cycle, dedicating it directly to Lord Vishnu as Purushottam.

The Numbers:

• 11 days shorter - Every lunar year is 11 days shorter than the solar year the gap that creates Adhika Maas

• 32.5 months apart - An Adhika Maas occurs once every 32.5 months roughly 2.7 years

• 13 month year - 2026 is a 13-month Hindu year one of the rarest calendrical events you’ll witness

• 3× multiplied merit - Ancient texts say spiritual practices during Adhika Maas carry multiplied blessings

The Psychology of the Elephant Deity

I want to pause here and give you something real. Something most people skip past because they think it’s “just mythology.”
But the symbolism of Lord Ganesha is actually a masterclass in human psychology.

• The large head thinks big. Expand your thinking beyond your small daily worries.
  The texts say Ganesha is the lord of intellect (Buddhi) and wisdom (Siddhi). His head is literally a reminder to use your mind expansively.

• The big ears, small mouth listen more than you speak.
  In a world that rewards loud voices, here is a deity saying: the wise one absorbs everything and speaks only when necessary.

• The broken tusk he broke his own tusk to write the Mahabharata when the pen ran dry.
  The lesson? Real commitment means using what you have, even at personal cost.
  No excuses.

• The mouse vehicle (Vahana) is a giant elephant deity riding a tiny mouse. The mouse represents the scurrying, restless mind and Ganesha, the master of intellect, has it fully under control beneath him.
  Today is the day to ask yourself: who is riding whom?

🧠 The Psychology of Worshipping Ganesha First Pratham Pujya the first to be worshipped. Before any big task, you pause, set intention, remove mental obstacles.
This is not superstition. This is what modern neuroscience calls “implementation intention” proven to increase follow-through by up to 91% in studies.
Ganesha puja was always a cognitive reset ritual.

YOUR ACTION GUIDE

Life may be busy, so choose what feels possible 2 minutes or 2 hours.

1. Begin with Ganesha’s name
   Before checking your phone, chant “Om Gam Ganapataye Namaha” three times.
   

2. Offer something sweet
   Modak, jaggery, banana, honey the gesture matters more than the item.
   

3. Write one obstacle
   Name what is blocking you, then write one action step to move beyond it.
   

4. Do something for your parents
   Call them, serve them, thank them, or simply seek their blessings.
   

5. Feed someone
   Share food with a neighbour, staff member, stranger, or anyone in need.
   

6. Light a ghee lamp
   Even one lamp during prayer can bring peace and grounding to your home.
   

7. Start what you delayed
   Send the message, sign the paper, begin the course, take the first step.
   

8. Take a 21-minute digital pause
   Keep your phone away. Chant, breathe, sit quietly, or reflect.
   

9. Tell your child a Ganesha story
   Share it as wisdom about focus, devotion, humility, and courage.
   

10. Make one Sankalp
    Choose one promise for the next 40 days something to begin or something to release.

THE DEEPER TRUTH

Why Our Ancestors Called Adhika Maas “The Month Nobody Wanted”

Here is a fact that blows my mind every single time I share it. When Adhika Maas first appeared in the cosmic calendar, it had no god assigned to it. Every other month had a deity. This one didn’t. People called it Mal Maas, the dirty month. The unlucky month. They avoided ceremonies in it.

The month wept. It went to Lord Vishnu and asked: “Why am I the only month without a presiding deity? Why does no one celebrate me?”

And Vishnu known as Purushottam, the Supreme Soul said:
“This month is mine. I will be its Lord. And any good deed done in this month will carry my personal blessing, multiplied beyond any other time of year.”

The “unlucky” month became the most auspicious one. The month no one wanted became the month everyone prays for.

✦ Think About This How many “Adhika Maas moments” have you lived through extra, unexpected, unwanted chapters in your life that turned out to be exactly where your greatest growth happened? The extra month is never wasted. Neither is yours.

HONEST GUIDANCE

Things to Avoid Today - And The Real Reason Why?

Tradition says to avoid looking at the moon tonight.
But let me give you the deeper reason beyond the myth.

Chaturthi is a day of turning inward, directing your attention away from the shiny, reflective, seductive surface of things (the moon is literally the symbol of reflected light, illusion) and toward substance.
The moon represents the restless mind, emotions, and the ego’s need to be seen.

The instruction to not look at the moon is an instruction to not let vanity and appearances run your day.

Adhika Maas also traditionally advises against major new materialistic commitments, new marriages, housewarming ceremonies, and large investments.
Not because the day is unlucky.
But because this month is meant for inner work, not outer show.
Save the party for next month.
Today, go deep.

Make Today Count, My Dear Ones

You don’t need to be perfectly religious to honour this day.
You need to be present.
You need to be grateful.
You need to look at one obstacle, one postponed beginning, one person you love and do something real about it today.

The universe has handed you a rare Wednesday.
A Ganesha Wednesday.
Inside a cosmic bonus month.
That won’t happen again for a very long time.

If this touched your heart, leave a comment and tell us how you are honouring this rare day today.

With love, light, and a modak’s worth of sweetness,
Dr Monika Singh “Shubhaa”🙏

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My dear ones,

Today, let us sit together for a few moments and understand the deeper meaning of Apara Ekadashi.

Many people know Ekadashi as a fasting day. They know that it is connected to Lord Vishnu. They know we avoid grains, we do puja, we chant, we observe discipline.

But if we look deeper, Ekadashi is not only about food.

It is about what we are feeding our mind, our emotions, our karma, and our soul.

Apara Ekadashi comes in the Krishna Paksha of Jyeshtha month, and the word Apara means boundless, limitless, immeasurable. That itself is such a beautiful teaching.

Because in life, we keep running behind things that are limited.

• Limited validation.

• Limited success.

• Limited approval.

• Limited control.

• Limited security.

But this vrat reminds us that the soul has come here for something much larger. Something that cannot be measured only through the material world.

Apara Ekadashi gently asks us:

Are you choosing the finite, or are you choosing the boundless?

The Story Behind Apara Ekadashi

In our Puranic tradition, there is a very powerful story connected to this Ekadashi.

It is said that Lord Krishna explained the greatness of Apara Ekadashi to King Yudhishthira. The story speaks of a king named Mahidhvaja, who, because of karmic burdens from his past, became a restless spirit after death.

He was not at peace.

And then a sage, through the merit of his Apara Ekadashi vrat, offered that spiritual merit for the liberation of this suffering soul. Because of that, the spirit was released and attained the divine abode of Lord Vishnu.

Now see this carefully.

The story is not only about one spirit being liberated.

It is about the power of sankalpa, the power of fasting with devotion, and the power of sharing punya.

When we do spiritual practices only for ourselves, they help us. But when we do them with a larger heart for our ancestors, for our family line, for souls who are suffering, for the collective the energy expands.

This is very much aligned with what we understand at BTNE:

Healing is never only personal.
When one person heals, an entire lineage receives light.

Why Ekadashi Is So Powerful

Ekadashi is the eleventh lunar day, and it is deeply connected with Lord Vishnu the preserver, the sustainer, the one who maintains balance in creation.

Our ancient rishis observed that on this tithi, the mind and body become more receptive to spiritual energy.

When we fast, the digestive system rests. But more importantly, the senses also get a chance to rest.

The constant need to consume food, stimulation, emotions, scrolling, reactions, complaints slows down.

And in that quietness, something very beautiful begins to happen.

• The prana starts moving upward.

• The mind becomes clearer.

• The heart becomes softer.

• The soul becomes more available to grace.

This is why Ekadashi is not a punishment. It is not deprivation.

It is a sacred pause.

• A pause from excess.

• A pause from unconscious patterns.

• A pause from karmic repetition.

• A pause from the ego’s constant hunger.

The Inner Practice of Fasting

When we look at any ritual deeply, we can understand it through three levels:

Body. Mind. Soul.

So yes, on Apara Ekadashi, fasting from grains and heavy food is important.

The real Ekadashi begins when we say: “Today, I will not feed the lower patterns within me.”

Can you fast from:

• Anger and blame?

• Gossip and comparison?

• Fear and the need to control?

Because the body may be fasting, but if the mind is still eating resentment, comparison, judgment, and fear, then the vrat remains incomplete.

The real Ekadashi begins when we say:

“Today, I will not feed the lower patterns within me.”

That is where transformation begins.

How You Can Observe Apara Ekadashi

If you are observing this vrat, keep it simple, sincere, and sattvic.

On the previous evening, take light food. Avoid heaviness, excess, onion, garlic, non-vegetarian food, and anything that makes the body dull.

On Ekadashi morning, wake up with a clean intention. Take a bath, sit quietly, light a diya, and offer your prayer to Lord Vishnu.

You may offer:

• Tulsi leaves

• Yellow flowers

• Fruits

• A ghee lamp

• Simple heartfelt prayer

You can chant:

ॐ नमो भगवते वासुदेवाय
Om Namo Bhagavate Vasudevaya

Even 108 times with devotion is powerful.

You may also read or listen to Vishnu Sahasranama, Bhagavata stories, or simply sit in silence and remember the divine presence within you.

And if you cannot do a strict fast, do not go into guilt.

You can observe it through fruits, milk, simple vrat food, or even through mental discipline. The intention matters deeply.

The vrat is not for showing strength to the world.

It is for becoming honest in front of your own soul.

Four Simple Practices for Today

If you want to observe Apara Ekadashi beautifully, do these four things:

1. Offer Tulsi

Tulsi is very dear to Lord Vishnu. Offer even one leaf with love. Do not make the ritual mechanical. Let the heart be present.

2. Light a Diya

When you light the lamp, pray:

“May the darkness of ignorance, fear, and karmic heaviness reduce from my life and my lineage.”

3. Chant the Mantra

Chant Om Namo Bhagavate Vasudevaya slowly. Do not rush. Let the sound enter your body.

4. Do Anna Daan or Seva

Feed someone. Help someone. Offer something to a person in need.

On certain days, even a small act of kindness carries multiplied energy because your intention is aligned with dharma.

What to Eat During the Vrat

Depending on your health and capacity, you may observe the fast in different ways.

Some people do nirjala. Some take only fruits. Some take simple vrat food.

Permitted foods usually include fruits, milk, curd, ghee, sabudana, kuttu, rajgira, singhara flour, potatoes, sweet potatoes, dry fruits, and sendha namak.

Avoid grains, rice, wheat, pulses, onion, garlic, non-vegetarian food, alcohol, tobacco, and heavy spices.

But again, please remember: if you are pregnant, breastfeeding, unwell, elderly, or medically advised not to fast strictly, do not force the body.

Dharma is never against health.

You can still observe Ekadashi through prayer, chanting, sattvic food, silence, gratitude, and self-discipline.

The Inner Meaning of Apara

My dear ones, the most beautiful part of this Ekadashi is its name.

Apara the boundless.

This day reminds us that the human being is not born only to survive, earn, worry, react, and repeat old patterns.

We are born to remember something higher.

We are born to move from fear to faith.
From guilt to purification.
From karma to consciousness.
From heaviness to devotion.
From the limited self to the boundless self.

So today, do not only ask Lord Vishnu for blessings.

• Ask for alignment.

• Ask for cleansing.

• Ask for protection from your own unconscious patterns.

• Ask for the strength to choose the higher path, even when the lower pattern feels familiar.

Because that is real liberation.

Not escaping life.

But becoming so conscious that life no longer controls you through old karmas.

A Prayer for Apara Ekadashi

Lord Vishnu,
Sustainer of the universe,
Protector of dharma,
Keeper of cosmic balance,

On this Apara Ekadashi,
may my body become lighter,
may my mind become quieter,
may my heart become purer,
and may my soul remember its boundless nature.

May the burdens of my past soften.
May my ancestors receive peace.
May my family line receive light.
May I stop feeding the patterns that keep me small.

Guide me from limitation to expansion.
From unconsciousness to awareness.
From fear to devotion.
From karma to grace.

Om Namo Bhagavate Vasudevaya.

With love and blessings,
Dr Monika Singh Shubhaa

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Not every powerful day arrives loudly.
Some come quietly asking you to notice what is shifting within you.

Let’s talk about something most people in your WhatsApp groups probably won’t bring up this week.

This Saturday, 9th May 2026, is Kalashtami, also known as Masik Krishna Janmashtami.

It happens every month on the Ashtami, the eighth day of the Krishna Paksha, the dark fortnight, when the moon is waning toward darkness.

Most people hear “Janmashtami” and think of the grand August celebration decorated temples, midnight prayers, butter ceremonies, and devotion everywhere.

But that is the annual Janmashtami.

Masik Janmashtami happens every single month.

Twelve times a year, the universe quietly taps you on the shoulder.

Most of us ignore eleven of them.

This month, it is worth not ignoring.

Because this day is not just religious.
It is astronomical.
It is physiological.
It is energetic.
And it carries a very specific invitation.

Kala means “time” in Sanskrit. It also means “darkness.”
Ashtami means “eighth.”

So Kalashtami is literally:

The eighth moment of darkness.
The universe’s scheduled pause.

What Actually Is This Day?

Let’s go beyond the surface explanation of “fasting and praying to Lord Shiva or Kali.”

That is beautiful, but there is much more underneath.

Kalashtami is the eighth day after the full moon.

On this day, the moon is roughly half-lit and declining.

It is not full.
It is not new.
It is in-between.
It is transitioning.

And that is the entire point.

In the lunar calendar, the eighth day of the dark fortnight carries a very specific kind of energy. Ancient Rishis observed this over generations and called it Sandhi Kala a junction period.

Not fully light.
Not fully dark.
A liminal space between two states.

Lord Bhairava, a fierce manifestation of Shiva, is especially worshipped on this day.

The Krishna - Bhairava Duality

Kalashtami and Masik Krishna Janmashtami together carry two powerful energies.

Krishna represents love, surrender, devotion, and divine softness.
Bhairava represents time, truth, protection, and dissolution.

They may look opposite, but they complete each other.

Krishna teaches us to surrender with love.
Bhairava teaches us to release with strength.

Krishna opens the heart.
Bhairava removes what blocks it.

That is why this day is not just about fasting or prayer.
It is about inner transition letting Bhairava dissolve what is false, while Krishna reminds us of what is eternal.

A Few Facts Most People Don’t Know

1. Kalashtami occurs 12 times a year.
The August Janmashtami is the annual one. These monthly Ashtamis are rarely spoken about, but they carry their own significance.

2. On Ashtami, the moon is at roughly 90 degrees from the Sun.
A perfect geometric right angle in the sky. The universe, quite literally, squaring up.

3. “Masik” simply means “monthly.”
This is the monthly echo of Krishna’s birth energy, the same lunar geometry recurring again and again.

4. Lord Bhairava carries a skull in his iconography.
Not as horror. As a reminder that time is always consuming.
Endings are not punishments. They are part of the cosmic order.

The Science - And Why It Matters

Here’s where it gets genuinely interesting.

The ancient calendar-makers were noticing things long before modern instruments could measure them.

The moon affects more than just ocean tides.

We know it moves billions of tonnes of ocean water. But the human body is also largely water. The gravitational pull of the moon, though subtle, interacts with biological rhythms in ways we are still learning to understand.

On the eighth day of the dark fortnight, the moon is in a specific phase angle relative to the Earth and Sun.

The tidal forces are not at their peak, like during the full moon or new moon. Instead, they are in a transitional pattern.

And transitions matter.

Studies in chronobiology and the science of biological clocks have explored how lunar phases may correlate with changes in sleep patterns, melatonin rhythm, cortisol levels, and nervous system sensitivity.

The Ashtami phase can be understood as a biological and energetic transition point.

Not dangerous.
Not dramatic.
But receptive.

Think of it like this:

When iron is between solid and molten, it is at its most malleable. You can shape it with far less force.

Ashtami is that kind of transitional state for the mind, body, and energy.

The geomagnetic relationship between the Sun, Moon, and Earth may create subtle shifts in the Earth’s electromagnetic field.

Your nervous system, especially the pineal gland, responds to light, rhythm, darkness, and subtle environmental cues.

This is why so many ancient traditions across cultures created fasting, prayer, silence, and ritual around specific lunar phases.

It is not just superstition.

It may be biology expressed through spiritual language.

Fasting on this day also carries a practical upside.

During lunar transition periods, the body is often more sensitive. A clean diet or mindful fasting gives the digestive system rest and supports cellular repair.

Ancient Hindu practice said:

Fast on Ashtam

Modern cellular biology says:

Periodic fasting supports autophagy, the process through which cells clean out internal debris.

Same instruction.
Different languages.

What The Universe Is Asking

Now let’s step out of the scientific frame and into something more personal.

If you believe, even a little, that the universe communicates with us, then Kalashtami is one of those days when it speaks more directly.

The symbolism is everywhere.

The moon is half-dark.
The mind is half inward.
The outer world is still present, but something inside is asking for silence.

The waning phase is about release.

What the full moon brought into awareness, the dark fortnight asks you to shed.

On this day, the universe is essentially asking one question:

What are you still holding that you were supposed to let go of?

On a practical level, days like this create a permission structure.

They give us a reason to pause.

And in an always-on world, pausing is wildly underrated.

Every high performer, spiritual seeker, artist, and deeply aware person has some version of an intentional pause.

Kalashtami gives you one.

Once a month.
Built into the calendar.
Waiting for you to notice it.

Who This Day Affects - And How

Not everyone experiences this day the same way.

And that is not random.

If you have been carrying unresolved grief, this day may bring it to the surface.

People often feel unusually heavy, emotional, quiet, or introspective around Ashtami.

The Bhairava energy is connected with facing what we have not fully processed.

Do not fight it.
Sit with it.

If you are in a creative block, Kalashtami can be a powerful day to break it.

This liminal energy, combined with the symbolic permission to dissolve old forms, creates space for new ideas to emerge.

Sometimes, old structures need to be released before new creation can begin.

If you are a business person or entrepreneur, this is not necessarily the day to launch or pitch.

It is the day to audit.

What in your work is dead weight?
What habit are you keeping out of inertia?
What system has expired but is still taking your energy?

Ashtami asks for ruthless honesty but with kindness.

If you are simply an ordinary person trying to get through the week, Kalashtami is still relevant.

It is a free psychological reset.

A culturally and cosmically supported moment to say:

This chapter is done.
Turn the page.

“The interesting thing about Bhairava is that he is terrifying to the ego and compassionate to the soul. He destroys what you have outgrown, not what you need. He is the universe’s editing function, running on a lunar schedule.”

What You Should Actually Do This Saturday

You do not need to build a home altar if that is not your thing.

Here is a simple menu of practices from deeply traditional to completely practical so you can work with this day instead of sleeping through it.

1. Wake Up Before Sunrise

The early morning hours before sunrise are called Brahma Muhurta the creator’s hour.

On 9th May, try waking between 4:30 AM and 5:30 AM.

The mind is naturally quieter at this time. Melatonin is completing its cycle, and the mind is often in a softer, more receptive state before the busyness of the day begins.

Even fifteen minutes of silence at this hour can feel different from an hour of meditation later in the day.

No phone.
No news.
No scrolling.

Just silence.

2. Fast Or Eat Clean

If your body allows it, observe a fast.

If not, keep the food simple.

Avoid processed food, alcohol, and overstimulation.

Traditionally, people consume fruits, milk, sabudana, or simple sattvic food.

The idea is not punishment.
The idea is purification.

Your body listens closely to what you give it on days of energetic transition.

3. Write One Thing You Are Releasing

Not pages of journaling.

Just one sentence.

“I am releasing my attachment to ______.”

This is not a magic trick.
It is a commitment.

Writing it down activates clarity. It turns a vague feeling into a conscious decision.

Write it.
Read it.
Mean it.

4. Light Something

Light a diya, candle, incense, or anything symbolic.

Fire has always been used to mark sacred moments.

It tells the mind:

This moment is different.
This day is not ordinary.

Your brain responds to physical symbols.

Use them consciously.

5. Visit A Shiva Or Kali Temple

If there is a Shiva, Bhairava, or Kali temple near you, visit it.

Temples are spaces charged with years, sometimes centuries of mantra, devotion, sound, silence, and intention.

Even ten minutes of sitting quietly in that environment can shift something inside.

If you cannot go to a temple, sit quietly at home with a lit diya.

That is enough.

6. End The Day Before Midnight

The night of Kalashtami is traditionally kept quiet.

Avoid parties, excessive stimulation, loud environments, and unnecessary screen time.

Let your nervous system process the day.

Sleep early if possible.

By 10 PM, allow the body to rest.

Sometimes, the deepest resets happen not through effort, but through sleep.

The Detail Nobody Talks About

Here is the part that is genuinely fascinating.

Masik Janmashtami is connected to Lord Krishna’s birth time not just symbolically, but astronomically.

Krishna was born on the Ashtami of the dark fortnight in the month of Bhadrapada, under a specific cosmic alignment.

Masik Janmashtami honours the fact that every month, the moon returns to a similar angular position.

Think about that.

A civilisation thousands of years ago was tracking the moon’s recurring angular positions with enough precision to say:

Every month, on this day, the cosmic conditions echo that sacred birth.

That is not just mythology.

That is ancient astronomy preserved inside religious practice so it would never be forgotten.

The Ashtami tithi is also special because it represents the moon’s angular distance from the sun at around 90 degrees, a geometric right angle in the sky.

In Vedic astrology, this creates a specific kind of tension-and-release energy, considered powerful for spiritual work.

A right angle.

The universe literally squared up and asked you to do the same.

And one more thing specific to this year:

This Kalashtami falls on a Saturday - Shanivar.

Saturday is connected with Saturn, the planet of discipline, karma, responsibility, and time.

Bhairava is also associated with time, discipline, and karmic correction.

So a Saturday Kalashtami carries an added intensity.

This does not happen every month.

It is worth noting.

Before You Log Off

You do not have to believe in lunar energy, ancient astronomy, or the cosmology of the Puranas to find value in this day.

You only have to believe in the value of intentional pausing in a world that never asks you to stop.

Kalashtami gives you a reason to stop.

Once a month.
For a few hours.
To ask what is working and what is not.
To dissolve what has expired.
To begin quietly, without noise, whatever comes next.

The universe built this into the calendar.

Someone, thousands of years ago, looked at the moon, mapped its cycles, and said:

Here.
This is the moment.
Use it.

This Saturday, 9th May 2026, whenever the day finds you pause.

Take a breath.

Ask yourself:

What am I ready to leave behind in the dark half of this moon?

It is there, waiting.

On the eighth day of darkness.

Right on schedule.

From my Heart to Yours

As this Kalashtami arrives, may you pause, release, and return to your inner stillness.

May Lord Shiva, Maa Kali, and Lord Bhairava bless you with clarity, courage, protection, and the strength to let go of what no longer serves your soul.

With love and blessings,
Dr Monika Singh Shubhaa

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My Lovely Beings,

A very warm and heartfelt Pranam to each one of you! 🙏

Today, I am not just bringing you a festival reminder. I am bringing you a story that can change the way you see your own life.

Tomorrow, 30th April 2026, the whole world celebrates the birthday of a divine form that did not appear when things were perfect. He appeared when things were at their absolute worst.

Narasimha Jayanti.
Half Lion. Half Man. Completely God.

“This newsletter is not just to be read, my dear.
It is to be felt.
Come, let us walk together toward that light which burns quietly inside every one of us.”

✦ The Story

When God Broke Every Rule Because Love Has No Rules

There was a demon king named Hiranyakashipu. He was proud, powerful, and believed he had become immortal.

He had received a boon from Lord Brahma:
No human could kill him.
No animal could kill him.
Not during the day.
Not at night.
Not inside a building.
Not outside.
Not on the ground.
Not in the sky.
Not with any weapon.

He thought he was completely safe.

So he went mad with power. He even tried to force his own little son, Prahlad, to stop worshipping Lord Vishnu. He tortured him. Gave him poison. Tried to crush him under elephants. Threw him into fire.

But Prahlad, that sweet, fearless child, never stopped chanting the Lord’s name.

Prahlad said,
“Father, God is everywhere.”

Hiranyakashipu laughed and struck a stone pillar.

“Is He in this pillar too?”

And from that very pillar, at twilight neither day nor night on the doorstep neither inside nor outside Lord Narasimha appeared.

Half lion, half man.

He placed Hiranyakashipu on His lap neither on the ground nor sky and ended the evil.

Forever.

This is not just an ancient story. This is a cosmic promise that whenever truth is crushed, whenever an innocent heart is broken, the universe itself changes its form and arrives.

Beyond all rules.
Because some things are bigger than rules.

✦ The Real Significance

This Is Not Just a Day of Worship

Narasimha Jayanti falls on Vaishakha Shukla Chaturdashi, which this year lands on 30th April 2026.

This is one of the most spiritually charged days of the Hindu calendar. The energy of this day is so powerful that prayers offered with a clean and sincere heart go straight to the divine.

No detours.

What makes this form of God so different?

Narasimha did not grow slowly. He did not plan. He burst out from stone, from darkness, from limitation, in an instant.

That is why this day celebrates the kind of strength that shows up when you have nothing left.

The strength that was always inside you, waiting.

Narasimha Kavacham Mantra

ॐ उग्रं वीरं महाविष्णुं
ज्वलन्तं सर्वतोमुखम्।
नृसिंहं भीषणं भद्रं
मृत्यु-मृत्युं नमाम्यहम्॥

Ugram Veeram Maha Vishnum
The destroyer of all fears

This mantra invokes Lord Narasimha’s fierce protective energy the power that removes fear, negativity, and inner darkness.

Chant it with faith when you need courage, protection, and strength to stand in your truth.

✦ How to Observe 30th April 2026

One Day That Can Quietly Shift Your Entire Year

I am right here with you, holding your hand and walking you through every step.

These are not complicated rituals. Think of them as a heart-to-heart conversation with God.

Simple
Sincerely
Deeply powerful

🌅 Dawn - 5:30 AM

Rise Early & Bathe with Intention

Wake up before sunrise, take a bath, and as the water touches you, picture Lord Narasimha: half lion, half man, full of fierce love.

Tell yourself:

“Today, I am shedding what has been holding me back.”

This is the most powerful start you can give your day.

☀️ Morning - 7:00 AM

Keep a Fast, Even a Simple One

Observe a fast today, or at least skip one meal.

When the stomach is light, the mind becomes clear. Fruits, milk, and rock salt are allowed.

Use the energy you save from eating and put it into prayer instead.

Your body will thank you.
Your soul will soar.

🌸 Midday - 12:00 PM

Pray Like Prahlad

Prahlad remembered God even while being tortured.

Today, bring your biggest pain to your quiet corner and simply chant the Narasimha Kavacham 3 times. It is easily available on YouTube.

Do not underestimate the protection you will feel. It is real and immediate.

🌙 Dusk - 6:15 PM

The Aarti at Twilight

Narasimha appeared at twilight, in the in-between moment when day became night.

At exactly dusk, light a ghee lamp.

Place black pepper, some flowers, and a pinch of turmeric before the Lord.

The evening aarti on this day carries a very special blessing.

Do not miss it.

🌟 Evening - 8:00 PM

Chant 108 Times

Sit with your mala, your prayer beads.
Close your eyes.

Chant:

Om Namo Narasimhaya

108 times.

One bead for every worry.
One bead for every fear.
One bead for every old wound.

Each chant is like a small lion roar that drives out whatever is sitting heavily on your chest.

Let it go, bead by bead.

✨ Night - 10:00 PM

Stay Up or Sit in Silence

If you can, stay awake past midnight.

Listen to bhajans.
Write down everything you are grateful for.

And then, this is important: write down the things you want to release this year.

Place that paper near your lamp.

Narasimha knows what to do with it.

Trust Him.

✦ What to Offer

Naivedyam & Why It Matters

Panchamrit
Milk, honey, ghee, curd, and sugar

A sweet offering for Lord Narasimha because beneath the fierceness, His love for His devotees is the gentlest thing in the universe.

Tulsi Leaves

Tulsi is dearest to Lord Vishnu. It represents purity of heart, and that is all God ever truly asks for.

Yellow Flowers

Marigold or sunflower

The colour of the sun represents courage, power, and the victory that is already on its way to you.

Dry Fruits & Bananas

Share these as prasad after your fast, because love shared in community is itself a form of worship.

✦ The Living Philosophy

How to Bring Narasimha Into Your Real Life

This avatar is not just a part of history.

He lives inside you.

Here is how to find Him:

1. Protect Your Inner Prahlad

Prahlad is the innocent, trusting part inside you, the child who still believes in goodness, in God, in dreams.

The voices that say,
“What will people think?”
“This will never work for me.”
“I am not good enough.”

Those are your inner Hiranyakashipu.

Narasimha’s job is to silence them.

Starting today, protect that pure part of yourself fiercely.

2. Learn to Live in the In-Between

Narasimha came at twilight.

Not a full day.
Not full night.

Life’s most transformative moments happen in the “in-between” places too.

When you have just lost a job.
When a relationship is unclear.
When the future feels foggy.

Do not fear those moments. God is most present there.

The in-between is not a waiting room.

It is a womb.

3. Think Beyond the “Rules” That Box You In

Hiranyakashipu’s boon had no loophole, but God simply became something entirely new.

When every path in your life seems blocked, that is your invitation to change your form entirely.

• Cannot find work in your field?
  Change the field.

• Relationship not working?
  Change the approach.

God showed us that when the system says “impossible,” become something the system has never seen before.

4. Be Fierce - But Only When It Truly Matters

Narasimha is fierce, but only against injustice, never for ego.

Setting boundaries in your life is a spiritual act, not a selfish one.

People who drain your peace, waste your precious time, or make you feel small saying a firm “no” to them is not rude.

It is you embodying the energy of Narasimha.

Protect your peace like it is sacred.

Because it is.

5. Surrender Is the Greatest Strength

Prahlad did nothing dramatic.

He simply kept saying the Lord’s name.

He surrendered completely.

We often think we must fix everything ourselves: our careers, our relationships, our health, our families.

But Narasimha’s deepest message is this:

Some battles are won not by fighting harder, but by letting go more completely.

Try it.
Just once.

You will be surprised.

✦ With Warmth

A Note from the Heart

Who is the one that cannot be broken?

Let me speak to you directly, with all my love.

Everyone has a “Hiranyakashipu” in their life.

Sometimes it is another person.
Sometimes it is a situation.
And sometimes, honestly, it is our own mind being the biggest obstacle to our own happiness.

But this story of Narasimha says something powerful:

“I am even inside the pillar.”

Meaning, the very thing you think is your obstacle, your limitation, your wall God is hiding inside that too.

The office where you were humiliated?
That is exactly where your roar will one day echo.

And that pillar Hiranyakashipu struck in arrogance?

It turned out to be the entire universe.

So the next time someone tries to break you, remember what came out.

A lion.

Live like that lion.

With grace.
With love.
With fire.
With shaan. .

God Changes His Own Form
Just to Come to His Devotee
That Is How Precious You Are

Tomorrow, 30th April 2026, is not just a festival.

It is a reminder that you are never truly alone.

Whatever difficulty you are in, whatever darkness surrounds you, whatever your personal “Hiranyakashipu” is right now, it has made one very big mistake.

It forgot about your God.

May Lord Narasimha’s grace be with you always.

May your home be filled with peace, your heart with courage, and your life with the beautiful victories that are quietly on their way to you.

Because you do not walk alone.

The Lion walks with you.

Jai Narasimha! 🙏🔥

Which part of the Narasimha story stayed with you today? If something touched you, you can simply hit reply and share, I always appreciate reading your reflections.

Dr Monika Singh Shubhaa
With love, fire & fierce grace

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Here we are again with the new part of our pregnancy diseases series, and today I want to talk to you about something that is rarely understood properly: Hyperemesis Gravidarum, or severe vomiting in pregnancy. Not the kind where a woman feels a little nauseous and moves on. I mean the kind where the day is planned around not throwing up, the body stops trusting food, and even water starts to feel like a threat.

The part nobody says out loud

What makes HG so hard is not only the vomiting. It is the way it steals normal life in very small, humiliating ways. A woman may not be able to brush her teeth without retching. The smell of the kitchen may feel like an attack. Plain water may suddenly become harder to tolerate than food. People around her may still think this is “morning sickness,” even though “morning sickness” is a misleading term because pregnancy nausea can happen any time of day or night, and HG is the much more severe end of that spectrum. It affects about 1 to 3 in 100 pregnancies and can become so intense that eating, drinking, working, and even basic daily functioning start breaking down.

What HG actually is

Hyperemesis Gravidarum is usually used for severe nausea and vomiting in pregnancy when the mother cannot eat or drink normally and the condition starts affecting daily life, hydration, and body weight. It usually begins early, often between 4 and 7 weeks, and unlike regular pregnancy nausea, it may not settle by 16 to 20 weeks. In some women, it continues much longer, sometimes close to birth. That is one reason this condition feels so mentally exhausting: the mother is not only sick, she often has no clear finish line.

The hidden danger is not just vomiting - it is depletion

The real problem is not the act of vomiting by itself. The real problem is what repeated vomiting slowly takes away. Water goes first. Then salt. Then food. Then energy. Then confidence. A woman can become dehydrated, lose weight, pass very little dark urine, feel dizzy, weak, and emotionally worn down. Severe cases may need hospital treatment with IV fluids and medicines, not because the mother is “weak,” but because the body has simply gone into deficit.

One under-discussed truth: HG is also a sensory illness

Nobody really prepares mothers for this part. HG is not always just “my stomach rejects food.” Very often, the whole sensory world becomes too sharp. Smells become louder. Textures become hostile. The body starts reacting not only to eating, but to the idea of eating. This is why common advice like “just have small meals” can feel almost insulting. The problem is not a lack of discipline. The problem is that the body is reacting to pregnancy at a level deeper than appetite. Research and patient guidance now link severe pregnancy sickness partly to pregnancy hormones and to differences in GDF-15, a placental hormone associated with nausea and appetite loss.

Another thing nobody says enough: waiting too long makes everything harder

Many women delay help because they feel guilty taking medicines in pregnancy, or because they are afraid they will be judged for “not coping naturally.” But early treatment matters. NHS and RCOG guidance both note that getting help sooner can reduce dehydration and weight loss, and that several anti-sickness medicines are considered safe in pregnancy. Around 1 in 5 affected women may need hospital admission for treatment. In other words, suffering in silence is not strength here. It usually just makes recovery slower.

The complication almost nobody knows about

Here is one more important point that is not talked about enough: with prolonged vomiting, the body can also become low in thiamine (vitamin B1). That is why some hospital protocols include thiamine along with fluids and anti-sickness treatment, especially when vomiting has been prolonged or severe. So when doctors take HG seriously, they are not only trying to stop vomiting; they are trying to protect the mother from the wider nutritional damage repeated vomiting can create.

What about the baby?

This is where I want to bring calm, not fear. Mild to moderate pregnancy sickness is not known to harm the baby. But with severe nausea and vomiting or HG, there can be a risk of lower-than-expected birth weight, which is why some women may be offered extra scans to watch the baby’s growth. So the goal is not to panic. The goal is support early enough that the mother’s body does not stay undernourished for too long.

When Pregnancy Awakens Unresolved Karmic Patterns

From a spiritual lens, some people see Hyperemesis Gravidarum as more than a physical symptom. Pregnancy is a time of heightened awareness, so intense changes in the body may also point toward subtle karmic issues, unresolved emotions, or carried-forward patterns asking to be seen and healed. In this view, the sickness is not a punishment, but a signal that something deeper may be surfacing between the mother and the incoming soul. The 7th - 8th week is often seen as a sensitive window to become aware of these karmic ties, understand them, and begin healing them through prayer, meditation, forgiveness, and conscious connection with the unborn child.

Physical symptoms should be treated properly, because medication supports the body. But along with that, inner healing is also important, otherwise the deeper unresolved layer may remain as subconscious impressions or karmic incompletions for both mother and child. So the wisest path is both: medical care for the body, and spiritual awareness for deeper healing.

Where Medical Support Meets Inner Healing

Healing from HG is not one trick. It is a combination of medical care and emotional permission. Anti-sickness medicines, fluids, vitamins, follow-up, and sometimes hospital treatment support the body. Quiet, reassurance, less sensory overload, kindness, prayer, breath, and honest rest support the nervous system. And one more thing matters deeply: the mother must stop feeling guilty for not having a glowing pregnancy. A peaceful womb environment is not created by pretending to enjoy suffering. It is created when truth, treatment, and tenderness are present together.

What I want to leave you with today

If vomiting has started taking away your ability to drink, eat, move, think clearly, or feel like yourself, please do not call it “normal” just because pregnancy is involved. Hyperemesis Gravidarum is real. It is more serious than people think. And it deserves support much earlier than most women receive. Sometimes the wisest thing a mother can do for her baby is not to endure more, it is to ask for help sooner.

With love,🙏🏻✨
Dr Monika Singh Shubhaa

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Here we are again with the new part of our pregnancy diseases series, and today I want to talk to you about something many mothers hear in one line from a report, but rarely understand deeply Anemia in Pregnancy.
A woman is often told, “Your hemoglobin is low,” and from that moment she starts worrying, but no one really sits with her and explains what this means for her body, her energy, and the baby growing within her. That is what I want to do with you today.

What anemia really means

Anemia simply means that the blood does not have enough hemoglobin to carry oxygen well through the body. In pregnancy, that matters even more because your blood is not serving only you now; it is also helping nourish your baby and placenta. In general, anemia in pregnancy is defined as hemoglobin below 11 g/dL, which is why this number becomes important during routine antenatal tests.

Why pregnancy makes this more common

Pregnancy naturally asks the body to do much more work. Your blood volume rises, the baby is growing, the placenta is forming, and your body must build extra red blood cells to support all of this. Sometimes there is also more fluid in the blood, which can make hemoglobin look lower than before. So pregnancy does not always “create” anemia from nothing; very often, it reveals that the body’s reserves were already low and now the demand has become too great to hide it.

The medical causes that truly matter

From the medical side, the most common cause of anemia in pregnancy is iron deficiency.
But this is not the only cause, and that is where many mothers get half the story instead of the full one.
Some women are low in folate, some in vitamin B12, some may have blood loss, poor absorption, long-term health issues, or inherited blood conditions such as thalassaemia. That is why one low hemoglobin report should not lead to guesswork. The body is saying something specific, and proper care begins by understanding exactly what it is lacking.

Why some mothers feel drained even when they are “eating fine”

This is something very few people explain well.
A woman may be eating regular meals and still become anemic because anemia is not only about quantity of food; it is also about quality, reserves, and absorption.
A mother may enter pregnancy after years of heavy periods, low iron stores, short gaps between pregnancies, or a diet that filled the stomach but did not rebuild the blood deeply.
In some women, even the right nutrients are not absorbed well enough, so the body stays low despite effort.
That is why anemia should be understood as a deeper nutritional and body reserve issue, not just “you forgot to eat spinach.”

What anemia may reflect on the spiritual side

Now let us move to the inner side, because this condition also carries a softer message.
Spiritually, anemia often reflects a state of depletion.
It is as if the body is saying,

“You have been giving from your reserves for too long.”

Some women have spent years carrying emotional weight, taking care of everyone, staying strong, pushing through tiredness, and postponing their own nourishment.
Then pregnancy comes, and the body can no longer hide that emptiness.
In that sense, anemia can be seen not only as low blood, but as a life that has been running on less support than it truly needed.

The karmic and ancestral layer behind depletion

Sometimes the deeper pattern is not only personal, but inherited.
Many women come from lineages where mothers were taught to serve first, eat later, rest last, and ask for almost nothing.
Over time, this becomes more than a habit; it becomes a way of being.
A woman may not even notice that she finds it easier to care for others than to receive care herself.
So when I look at anemia spiritually, I sometimes see an old family pattern around undernourishment, over-responsibility, and silent exhaustion.
Pregnancy brings that pattern to the surface, not to punish her, but to invite healing where her lineage may have needed it for generations.

What proper healing looks like medically

Now let us talk clearly about the solution.
If anemia is caused by iron deficiency, the body needs iron.
If folate or vitamin B12 is low, those need correction too.
This is why medicines and supplements matter.
WHO recommends daily iron and folic acid supplementation during pregnancy because it reduces the risk of maternal anemia and iron deficiency.
In some women, tablets are enough.
In others, especially when levels are lower or tablets are not working well, doctors may advise stronger treatment.
Real healing here is not guessing, delaying, or replacing care with hope alone.
It is proper testing, the right treatment, and follow-up to make sure the blood is actually improving.

What healing looks like spiritually

At the spiritual level, healing means rebuilding the
inner environment in which the baby is growing.
Meditation can do something beautiful: it can calm the mother’s nervous system, reduce fear, soften exhaustion, help her receive support better, and create a more peaceful space around her unborn child.
When a mother sits in stillness every day, breathes with awareness, blesses her body, and connects with her baby from calm instead of worry, she is changing the emotional climate of the womb while the medicines do their work in the body.

Why both sides must come together

This is why I never see science and spirituality as opposites in pregnancy.
One heals the blood, the other heals the field.
One gives the body what it is missing, the other gives the being what it has been missing.
A mother with anemia does not need only tablets; she also needs restoration.
She needs nourishment in food, in rest, in thoughts, in support, and in the way she relates to herself. When both sides are honored together, healing becomes fuller, gentler, and more

What I want to leave you with today

If your hemoglobin is low in pregnancy, do not see it only as weakness, and do not reduce it only to a spiritual lesson either.
See it as a sacred signal.
Your body may be asking for minerals, vitamins, and medical support.
Your inner world may be asking for slowing down, receiving, and replenishment.
When you respond to both with sincerity, you do more than improve a report.
You create a stronger body for yourself and a calmer, more beautiful environment for your baby.
I will see you in the next part of this series, where we will talk about Hyperemesis Gravidarum - severe vomiting in pregnancy and understand what it really means, why it happens, and how to support the mother through it with both care and awareness.

With love,
Dr Monika Singh Shubhaa🌸

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Today we are back with the next part of our series on pregnancy health, and today I want to sit with you and talk about high blood pressure in pregnancy, also called preeclampsia.

If you are pregnant, please read this slowly.

Because sometimes in pregnancy, the body does not shout first.
It whispers.

And preeclampsia is one of those conditions that can start quietly, but if it is missed, it can become serious for both mother and baby.
It usually happens after 20 weeks of pregnancy and is linked with high blood pressure.

Many women search things like:

• “Is swelling normal in pregnancy?”

• “Why do I have a bad headache in pregnancy?”

• “Can blurred vision in pregnancy be serious?”

• “Why is my BP high during pregnancy?”

And this is exactly why we need to talk about this today.

What is preeclampsia?

In simple words, preeclampsia is a condition in pregnancy where blood pressure goes high and the body may start showing signs that it is under stress. Doctors often pick it up during pregnancy checkups by checking your blood pressure and urine.

This is why regular checkups matter so much.
Sometimes you may not feel very strong signs in the beginning, but your reports may show that something needs attention.

Signs you should never ignore

Please do not ignore these signs:

• a strong headache that does not go away

• blurred vision or seeing flashing lights

• pain below the ribs

• sudden swelling in the face, hands, or feet

• vomiting or feeling very unwell

• trouble breathing

Not every swelling is dangerous.
Not every headache means preeclampsia.
But if these signs are strong, sudden, or feel unusual, please speak to your doctor or maternity team without delay.

Why is it serious?

Because when preeclampsia is not managed on time, it can harm the mother and also affect the baby’s growth. In severe cases, it can lead to fits, stroke, organ problems, or the need for early delivery.

I am not saying this to scare you.
I am saying this so you do not dismiss what your body is trying to tell you.

Now let us look at this a little deeper

From the medical side, preeclampsia is a real pregnancy condition.
It is not something a mother should blame herself for.

But on the inner level, sometimes I gently ask a mother:

• Where is there pressure in your life?

• Where have you been carrying too much?

• Where have you been trying to stay strong all the time?

• Where have you not allowed yourself to rest, receive, or soften?

I do not say this is the medical cause.
But sometimes the body shows us what the heart has been holding for a long time.

Sometimes there may be a deeper pattern of:

• fear

• emotional pressure

• overcontrol

• carrying family stress silently

• women in the family always “managing everything” but never feeling held

So on the spiritual level, this can become an invitation to slow down, listen, and release pressure where you can.

Can it be healed on a spiritual level?

I want to say this very clearly:

Preeclampsia needs proper medical care.
Spiritual work cannot replace your doctor, your medicines, your tests, or your monitoring.

But spiritual support can still help you deeply.

It can help you:

• calm fear

• settle your mind

• reduce inner stress

• feel more connected to your body

• respond with awareness instead of panic

So yes, healing at the spiritual level is possible in the sense that a mother can work on her fear, her stress, her inner pressure, and her emotional state.

But along with that, she must stay in touch with her doctor and follow medical advice fully.

If you are pregnant, remember this

Please do not wait for things to become very big.
Please do not think, “Maybe it is nothing.”
Please do not ignore repeated headaches, unusual swelling, vision changes, or feeling suddenly unwell.

Your body often gives signs before things become serious.

Listen early.
Check early.
Act early.

Because care in time can protect both mother and baby.

With love,❤️
Dr Monika Singh Shubhaa

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Pregnancy is beautiful.
But let us be honest, it is not only beautiful. It is also biological, hormonal, emotional, energetic, and at times, deeply demanding.

That is why today I am beginning a new series with you for upcoming weeks.
A series on the diseases and conditions of pregnancy that many women do not fully understand until they are already facing them.

Not to create fear.
But to create awareness.
Because when a mother understands early, she suffers less, responds sooner, and supports her baby better.

And today, we begin with one of the most common and most quietly developing conditions in pregnancy:

Gestational Diabetes

Gestational diabetes is diabetes that first develops during pregnancy. It usually appears around the second half of pregnancy, often around the 24th week, and it may not cause obvious symptoms at all. That is exactly why screening between 24 and 28 weeks is so important.

Many mothers imagine that if something serious is happening, they will “feel” it.
But gestational diabetes often does not arrive dramatically.
It arrives silently.

Maybe a little more thirst.
Maybe more urination.
Maybe nothing noticeable at all.
And yet, blood sugar may already be rising.

Scientifically, this happens because pregnancy hormones can make the body more resistant to insulin. In simple words, the body has to work harder to keep blood sugar balanced, and in some women, it cannot keep up enough. Some risk factors include a previous history of gestational diabetes, being overweight, a family history of type 2 diabetes, PCOS, or having previously delivered a baby over 9 pounds.

Why does this matter so much?

Because unmanaged gestational diabetes can affect both mother and baby. It is linked with a higher chance of a baby growing too large, cesarean birth, and a higher risk of complications such as preeclampsia. It also matters after pregnancy, because women who have had gestational diabetes have a much higher future risk of type 2 diabetes and need follow-up testing after birth.

Now let us pause here.
Because at BTNE, we do not look only at the lab report.
We also look at the inner world of the mother.

The Spiritual Lens

First, an important truth:
Scientifically, gestational diabetes is explained through hormones, metabolism, insulin resistance, and medical risk factors not by karma.

But on a spiritual and reflective level, a woman may still ask:

• Why is my system struggling to regulate?

• Where in my life am I carrying excess pressure, excess fear, or excess unprocessed stress?

• What patterns around nourishment, worth, control, or receiving support have I inherited?

I would not call these the “cause” in a medical sense.
I would call them the inner terrain.

Sometimes the karmic or ancestral pattern is not “this disease was fated.”
Sometimes it is this:

• a lineage of women who lived in survival mode

• a family pattern of suppressing emotion and normalizing stress

• a habit of overgiving, under-resting, and not receiving care

• fear around safety, motherhood, money, or the future

• a disconnected relationship with food, softness, and self-nourishment

So no, I would never tell a mother, “You created this spiritually.”
That would be careless.
But I may gently say:
This condition can become a doorway to see what your body has been carrying silently.

Can It Be Healed on a Spiritual Level?

Here we must be very clear.

Gestational diabetes should be managed with proper prenatal care, blood sugar monitoring, food guidance, activity, and medicines such as insulin or metformin when required. Many cases improve or resolve after birth, but follow-up testing still matters because future diabetes risk remains elevated.

So spiritual work is not a replacement for medical care.
It is a supportive layer.

What can spiritual healing help with?

It can help a mother:

• reduce fear around the diagnosis

• regulate her nervous system

• build a kinder relationship with her body

• eat and rest with more awareness instead of guilt

• release emotional pressure that may be worsening her stress response

• reconnect with the baby in love instead of panic

There is some emerging evidence that mindfulness-based support may help with perceived stress and may improve some glucose-related outcomes in pregnancy, but the evidence is still limited and not strong enough to replace standard treatment.

What Spiritual Support May Look Like

If a mother with gestational diabetes wants to work at the spiritual level, I would guide her into practices like these:

1. Daily body reassurance
Place one hand on the womb and one on the heart.
Say:
My body is not failing me. My body is asking for support. I respond with love, discipline, and trust.

2. Releasing fear instead of feeding it
A diagnosis should awaken awareness, not shame.
Shame tightens the system. Awareness heals behavior.

3. Healing the pattern of overstrain
Ask gently:
Where am I still living as if I must carry everything alone?

4. Sacred nourishment
Do not eat in guilt.
Do not eat in haste.
Eat with presence.
Food becomes very different when the nervous system is not in panic.

5. Regulated breath and stillness
A calmer inner state may not “cure” gestational diabetes by itself, but it can support steadier choices, better emotional balance, and a healthier pregnancy journey alongside medical treatment.

What I Want Every Mother to Remember

Gestational diabetes is not always loud.
That is why it becomes dangerous when ignored.

So please remember:

• No symptoms does not mean no problem. Screening matters.

• This is medical, not moral. A diagnosis is not a personal failure.

• Your inner state matters too. Not as blame, but as support.

• With timely care, many mothers go on to have healthy pregnancies and healthy babies.

This is why awareness must come before seriousness.
Not after.

And this is why this series matters.

Because pregnancy is not a time to know less.
It is time to know deeper.

With love,
Dr Monika Singh Shubhaa

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My dear one,

Most people think Chaitra Navratri is a time to pray more, fast more, chant more, and ask for blessings.

But that is only the outer layer.f

These nine days do something much more subtle.

They make hidden things visible.

Not outside. Inside you.

A pattern you were ignoring.
A tiredness you were calling normal.
A fear you had decorated with logic.
A wound that had gone silent but had not gone away.

This is why these days feel different.

Not because the calendar says so.
Because nature itself changes its breath.

This is Chaitra.
The beginning of the natural year.
The beginning of movement.
The beginning of heat.
The beginning of life pushing upward again.

And when life begins to rise in nature, it also begins to rise in you.

That is why Chaitra Navratri is not only a spiritual event.

It is a season of exposure.

It reveals what is alive in you.
And it also reveals what is still stuck.

Why These Nine Days Feel So Intense For Many People

Some people feel more emotional.
Some feel restless.
Some suddenly want to clean their room, their body, their relationships, their phone, even their thoughts.
Some feel tired without reason.
Some feel pulled toward prayer.
Some feel irritated by everyone.

All of this can happen in the same house.

Why?

Because when a seasonal shift happens, the body does not only change physically.
The mind changes.
Sleep changes.
Digestion changes.
Tolerance changes.
Memory changes.
Even the way you react changes.

These days are like a mirror with better lighting.

They do not create your pattern.

They show it more clearly.

If anger is sitting inside, it comes up faster.
If grief is stored inside, it becomes heavier.
If clarity is growing inside, it becomes stronger.
If devotion is real, it becomes softer and deeper.

So please understand this carefully:

Navratri does not disturb you.
It uncovers you.

The Truth

Most people are told what to do in Navratri.

Eat this.
Do not eat that.
Wear this colour.
Read this prayer.
Visit this temple.

But very few are taught how to read themselves during these days.

And that is where the real blessing is.

Because these nine days are not only for rituals.

They are for diagnosis.

You can watch yourself and know:

Where am I still reacting from survival?
Where am I still afraid of change?
Where am I still living from an old season of my life?
Where am I forcing instead of flowing?
Where am I asking God to remove a lesson I have still not understood?

This is the deeper work.

Not performance.
Observation.

Not pressure.
Presence.

The Nakshatra Movement Is Also Part Of This Inner Story

During Chaitra Navratri, the Moon moves through different lunar stations each one shifting the emotional atmosphere in a subtle but real way.
You may not know their names.
But you will likely recognize their feelings.
The first few days often carry a restless, urgent energy.
Something in you wants to begin, fix, move, cleanse.
This is not impatience.
This is activation.
It is the energy of a new movement asking to be used wisely.

Then comes a heavier phase.
A sense of inner pressure.
Old emotional weight surfaces things you have been carrying quietly.
This is not a setback.
This is the womb-space of the cycle doing its work.
It is asking what you can no longer carry in the same way.

Then something sharpens.
A clarity arrives that can feel almost uncomfortable.

Things that were blurry become obvious.
Decisions that felt complicated suddenly feel simple.
This is the fire of discernment.
It does not always feel gentle, but it makes things clean.

This is why these nine days can feel like a journey: something opens, then something feels heavy, then something becomes clear.

That is not random.
That is the rhythm of the season moving through you.

How To Decode Your Patterns During Chaitra Navratri

I want you to observe three things only.

First, notice what repeats.

The same fight, the same fear, the same overthinking, the same guilt, the same urge to prove, the same feeling of not being enough, the same exhaustion after being with certain people.
Anything that repeats is not just a passing mood.
It is a pattern.
Second, notice what drains you faster than usual, because during sacred windows.

The body becomes less willing to tolerate what is false.

• false conversations

• false commitments

• false smiling

• false strength

• false control

And third, notice what feels naturally right without force.
Silence may feel better.
Simple food may feel better.
Prayer may feel more real.
Tears may come without drama.
Boundaries may become easier.
You may not want noise anymore.
Do not ignore this.
Your system is telling the truth faster these days.

The Real Essence Of The Goddess In These Nine Days

The Goddess is not impressed by decoration.

She responds to the truth.

If you light a lamp but refuse to see your own pattern, the outer light remains outer.
If you do not fast but you become honest, aware, softer, cleaner in your thoughts, that also is sacred.

The Devi is not only in the temple.

She appears in your ability to stop repeating what hurts you.

She appears in the moment you say, “This fear has lived in my family for long enough. It will not live through me in the same way.”

She appears when a woman stops shrinking.

• When a man stops hardening.
  

• When a mother stops passing anxiety as love.
  

• When a couple chooses healing before conception.
  

• When a person chooses awareness before reaction.

That is Devi in action.

Not only devotion.
Embodiment.

How To Respond During These Days

Do not overdo.

These nine days are not asking you to become dramatic.
They are asking you to become available.

Eat a little lighter if your body wants that.
Sleep on time.

• Sleep on time.

• Reduce useless speaking.

• Do not consume too much chaos online.

• Do not fight for every point.

• Do not explain yourself everywhere.

• Sit with one notebook.

• Sit with one prayer.

• Sit with one honest truth each day.

Ask yourself at night:

What came up in me today that I usually ignore?

And then ask:

Is this a passing mood, or is this an old pattern asking to be seen?

This one question can change your Navratri.

For Women, Mothers, And Those Preparing For A Child -This Time Is Even More Powerful

If you are trying to conceive, pregnant, healing after birth, or raising a child, do not treat these days casually.

Your inner state does not stay only within you.
It becomes an atmosphere your child can feel.

They may not hear every word,
but they absorb your rhythm,
your pace,
your softness,
your safety,
and even the emotions you are still carrying.

Not as blame.
Not as pressure.
Just a gentle reminder that your inner world matters.

So use these days not to become perfect.

Use them to become cleaner.

Cleaner in emotion.
Cleaner in intention.
Cleaner in reaction.
Cleaner in what you carry forward.

That itself is a sacred offering.

A Different Way To Live Chaitra Navratri

You do not need to make it complicated.

Each day, choose one small act:

One thing to release.
One truth to admit.
One pattern to interrupt.
One prayer to feel.
One reaction to soften.
One old identity to loosen.

This is also sadhana.

Very real sadhana.

Because the deepest worship is not always loud.

Sometimes it is the quiet moment where you stop becoming the same person again.

My dear one,

Chaitra Navratri is not only a celebration of the Goddess.

It is a chance to notice where your own life is asking for correction, cleansing, courage, and consciousness.

Do not rush through these days.

They are not ordinary.

They are a doorway.

And if you move through them with awareness, you may not just finish Navratri with blessings.

You may finish it with a different inner foundation.

And that changes everything.

With love,
Dr Monika Singh “Shubhaa”

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My dear one,

Eid is almost here.

And this year in India, Eid al-Fitr is tentatively expected on Saturday, March 21, 2026, depending on the local sighting of the Shawwal (the month that follows Ramadan in the Islamic lunar calendar) moon. It marks the end of Ramadan and the beginning of Shawwal.

Most people see Eid as a festival of prayers, sweets, new clothes, and family gatherings.

That is true.

But that is not the whole truth.

Eid is also a shift in the emotional atmosphere around us.
It changes how people meet, how homes feel, how children remember, and how communities breathe together.

That is what makes Eid so special.

Where Eid Actually Began

The history of Eid al-Fitr goes back to the early Muslim community in Madinah, where it was established by Prophet Muhammad in 624 CE, in the second year after the Hijra, after the first full month of Ramadan fasting. Islamic tradition also preserves a narration that when the Prophet came to Madinah, two earlier festival days were replaced with Eid al-Fitr and Eid al-Adha.

That history matters.

Because it tells us that Eid was never meant to be only a social event.
It was born as a sacred pause after discipline, devotion, and self-restraint.

In simple words:
First comes fasting, then comes feasting.
First comes remembrance, then comes celebration.

That sequence is the wisdom of Eid.

Why the Day Feels So Different

Eid does not enter life loudly at first.

It arrives subtly.

You feel it in the anticipation of Chand Raat.
You see it in markets that become brighter and homes that become more welcoming.
You notice it in the preparation for prayer, in family visits, in shared food, and in the instinct to reach out to others. Charity before the Eid prayer—Zakat al-Fitr—is also a defining part of the day, so that celebration is not reserved only for those who can afford it.

This is why Eid feels different from ordinary happiness.

It is joy with conscience.
Warmth with humility.
Celebration with responsibility.

And honestly, the world needs more of that.

Why Eid Impacts Everyone, Not Just Those Who Celebrate It

This is something I deeply feel.

A real festival never belongs only to one group of people.
Its fragrance spreads.

Even those who do not celebrate Eid directly are touched by its field.

Why?

Because when an entire community enters gratitude, charity, prayer, and togetherness, that energy does not remain private. It becomes collective.

And collective energy affects everyone.

A child watching love being shared learns safety.
A family gathering in warmth remembers belonging.
A neighborhood filled with greetings feels more human.
A society that witnesses generosity becomes softer, even if only for a while.

This is not a small thing.

In today’s world, people are emotionally tired.
There is so much overstimulation.
So much comparison.
So much pressure.
So much silent loneliness.

And then a festival like Eid comes and says:

Pause.
Pray.
Gather.
Give.
Celebrate.
Remember what really matters.

That is healing.

The Real Teaching Hidden Inside Eid

If I had to say the essence of Eid in one line, I would say this:

Eid teaches us that sweetness has the deepest value when it comes after inner work.

That is its real beauty.

Not indulgence.
Not display.
Not noise.

But a return to what matters most:
gratitude, restraint, charity, prayer, family, dignity, and joy.

At BTNE, we speak so often about the environment we create around ourselves because environments imprint.

Home imprint. Gatherings imprint. Emotional states imprint.

Eid creates an imprint of togetherness.

And that is not a small gift.

A Gentle Reflection for This Week

Even if you do not celebrate Eid personally, you can still receive its message.

Ask yourself:

Where can I bring more softness into my home?
Where can I replace excess with gratitude?
Where can I make sure my joy includes someone else?
Where can I choose connection over ego?

That is how a festival becomes wisdom.
Not when it stays outside you.
But when it changes something within you.

My Blessing for You

My dear one, may this Eid bring peace into homes, tenderness into conversations, nourishment into relationships, and humility into celebration.

May we remember that the most beautiful festivals are not just seen.

They are felt.
They are shared.
They are lived.

Eid Mubarak🌙

With love and blessings,
Dr Monika Singh Shubhaa

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My dear one,

Spring looks soft from the outside.

Flowers bloom. Trees look fuller. The air feels lighter. The sun sits differently on your skin.

But inside the human system, spring is not soft.

It is activating.

It stirs what was sleeping.
It exposes what was suppressed.
It brings movement to what had become still.
And because of that, many people mistake spring energy for confusion, emotional instability, impatience, or sudden restlessness.

But what is really happening?

Your inner world is responding to the season of renewal.

Spring is the bridge between survival and expression.

Winter asks you to conserve.
Spring asks you to emerge.

And emergence is beautiful but it is not always comfortable.

Because when life begins to bloom outside, your mind immediately starts asking:

• “What about my life?”
  
  

• “Why am I still stuck?”
  
  

• “Why do I feel behind?”
  
  

• “Why do I suddenly want change?”
  
  

• “Why am I feeling more emotional these days?”
  
  

This is where awareness becomes very important.

Because if you understand spring energy, you can use it for healing, momentum, and inner expansion.

If you do not understand it, you may react impulsively, emotionally, and unconsciously.

Let me walk you through this gently.

What energies are active during spring?

Spring carries the energy of:

1. Renewal
This is the most visible spring energy. The body wants movement. The heart wants freshness. The mind wants possibility. You may suddenly feel like cleaning, planning, starting over, changing your look, shifting your routine, or making new decisions.

2. Emotional thawing
What winter numbed, spring can awaken. That means some people feel happier in spring but others feel unexpectedly emotional. Old loneliness, grief, disappointment, or relationship wounds may rise again.

3. Expansion
Spring is outward-moving. It pushes you toward expression, creativity, visibility, and action. You may feel a stronger urge to speak, create, connect, travel, or try something new.

4. Restlessness
This is the shadow side of spring. The same energy that wants growth can also create impatience. People start feeling, “Something has to change right now.”
That urgency is not always intuition. Sometimes it is unprocessed internal pressure.

5. Hope
This season naturally restores future-thinking. Even tired people start imagining better days. This is why spring is powerful for manifestation, healing work, and life redesign but only when grounded.

How does the mind behave during spring?

The mind becomes more active in spring.

Not always wiser. Just more active.

It starts scanning your life.

It compares.
It evaluates.
It notices what is missing.
It wants progress.
It wants a better story.

This is why in spring, many people suddenly feel one of these:

• “I need to fix my whole life.”
  
  

• “I’m wasting time.”
  
  

• “Everyone else is moving ahead.”
  
  

• “I should start something big.”
  
  

• “Maybe I need to leave this relationship/job/city immediately.”
  
  

Now listen carefully:

Not every strong spring thought is a wise thought.

Sometimes it is simply life-force returning, and the mind doesn’t know how to hold that energy maturely.

So it converts raw aliveness into pressure.

That is why spring can make a person feel inspired in the morning and unsettled by evening.

The mind in spring needs direction, not domination.

How does the heart behave during spring?

The heart becomes more sensitive, more open, and more vulnerable.

This is the season where many people:

• feel love more deeply
  
  

• miss people more intensely
  
  

• crave emotional connection
  
  

• feel disappointment more strongly
  
  

• long for beauty, belonging, and meaning
  
  

Why?

Because spring activates the emotional field of opening.

And opening is risky for anyone who has been protecting themselves for too long.

So what happens?

One part of the heart says,
“I want a connection.”

Another part says,
“But what if I get hurt again?”

This creates inner conflict.

A person may become softer on the outside, but more reactive on the inside.

This is why spring often brings:

• sudden attachment
  
  

• old memories resurfacing
  
  

• relationship overthinking
  
  

• wanting to reconnect with someone from the past
  
  

• heightened sensitivity to rejection
  
  

• deeper longing for purpose and intimacy
  
  

The heart in spring does not just want romance.

It wants aliveness.

It wants to feel that life is moving again.

How a person usually reacts during spring

Most people don’t realize the season is affecting them. So they think, “This is just me.”

But very often, spring amplifies patterns that were already there.

Here is how it commonly shows up:

Reaction 1: Starting everything at once

A person suddenly wants a new routine, new business idea, new fitness plan, new relationship standards, new spiritual practice all in one week.

This feels productive.
But often, it is scattered activation.

Reaction 2: Increased emotional sensitivity

A person cries more easily. Feels more touched. More triggered. More nostalgic.

Reaction 3: Relationship restlessness

A person starts questioning whether their relationships are nourishing, stagnant, real, or misaligned.

Reaction 4: Comparison and self-pressure

Because the world looks alive again, people feel they should also be blooming externally.

Reaction 5: Spiritual openness

This is one of the most beautiful possibilities of spring. A person feels drawn to nature, prayer, meditation, silence, meaning, and deeper truths.

What practices should a person do during this season?

Here are some deeply supportive spring practices:

Morning reset

Open the windows. Let light enter. Sit with your breath before touching your phone. This changes the tone of your nervous system.

Heart journaling

Write:

• What is trying to bloom in me?
  
  

• What am I tired of carrying?
  
  

• What am I pretending not to know?
  
  

• Where am I forcing life?
  
  

• What would softness look like now?
  
  

Nature presence

Do not only look at nature. Let it regulate you.

Observe how nothing blooms in panic.
Everything blooms in readiness.

Emotional detox

Unsent letters. Honest tears. Forgiveness work. Naming your truth.
Spring is a beautiful time to release emotional stagnation.

Creative expression

Write, sing, paint, cook, dance, rearrange, plant something.
Spring energy gets distorted when it has no healthy expression.

Sacred pause

Do not let this season become another productivity trap.
Growth is not always visible. Some of the deepest spring work is invisible.

If you are feeling confused, emotional, behind, or restless this spring read this carefully

There is nothing wrong with you.

You may simply be in an inner transition.

Spring often creates this paradox:

You feel more alive.
And more uncomfortable.

More hopeful.
And more aware of what is missing.

More open.
And more tender.

This is normal.

Because growth is not only about blooming.

It is also about leaving the old skin.

And old skin does not leave without some discomfort.

So please do not judge yourself too quickly in this season.

Instead, observe yourself with honesty.

Maybe you are not “falling apart.”

Maybe you are thawing.

What exactly should you do to keep going in life during spring?

I want to make this very simple.

Do these five things:

1. Choose one area to renew.
Not your whole life. Just one area.

2. Reduce emotional noise.
Less overthinking. Less comparison. Less reactive decision-making.

3. Build one grounding habit.
Something small you can actually sustain.

4. Let yourself feel without collapsing into every feeling.
Emotion is information, not always instruction.

5. Stay in relationship with life.
Walk. Pray. Journal. Speak. Create. Reach out. Begin again.
Do not withdraw from life just because you are in transition.

Spring does not ask you to be perfect.

It asks you to participate.

My lovely one, spring is not here to pressure you.
It is here to remind you.

Life still wants to move through you.
Your heart still remembers expansion.
Your mind can become your ally.
Your body can become your temple again.
And even if this season is bringing up emotion instead of immediate joy, that too is sacred.

Because healing is also a form of blooming.

So go gently.

Open slowly.

Choose truth over rush.
Choose rhythm over intensity.
Choose inner spring before outer performance.

And trust this:

Not all growth makes noise.

Some of the most beautiful blooming happens quietly, within.

With love,
Dr Monika Singh “Shubhaa”

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If you ask most people what Holi is, they will say:
Colors.
Gujiya.
Music.
Photos.

And yes those are beautiful.

But Holi was never meant to be a “one-day party.”
It was designed as a seasonal checkpoint for human beings.

A point in the year where you stop.
Look within.
And come out lighter.

That is why it still matters today.

Because today, we are not short on celebration.
We are short on release.
We are short on repair.
We are short on real connection.

Holi Isn’t Random. It Arrives Right When You Need a Reset

Holi comes at a very specific junction.

Winter has done its job.
It has pushed us inward.
It has made us reflect.
It has also made many people heavy physically and emotionally.

Then spring arrives.

Spring is nature’s signal of renewal.

You see it in the trees.
You feel it in the air.
You notice it in the body.

This is why Holi is not random.
It is aligned with a natural shift.

And nature always does one thing in spring:
It clears space for life.

So Holi comes as a cultural mirror of spring.

It says:
“What are you still holding that is dead?”
“What emotion has become stale?”
“What relationship needs cleansing?”
“What thought has overstayed in your mind?”

Holi is not only a festival.
It is a psychological spring-cleaning.

The “Signals” the Universe Sends During Holi

When people say, “What signals are coming from the universe?”
I translate it simply.

The universe speaks through patterns that repeat.

Seasons repeat.
Life cycles repeat.
The body’s chemistry repeats.
Human emotions repeat.

And Holi sits inside that pattern as a signal of:

A) Release

The old must go.
Otherwise the new cannot enter.

B) Reset

You don’t need a perfect past to begin again.
You need a clean present.

C) Reconnection

Community is not luxury.
It is nervous system nourishment.

D) Joy

Not dopamine joy.
Not “scrolling joy.”
But deep, regulating joy
the kind that reminds your body: life is safe.

That is the real “cosmic message.”

Not mystical.
Very practical.

The Real Story: Why Holi Begins With Fire

Before colors, there is fire.

That matters.

Because Holika Dahan is not a ritual for decoration.
It is a ritual for truth.

Hiranyakashipu wanted control.
He wanted worship.
He wanted fear.

Prahlad stood for a different power.

Not aggression.
Not politics.
Just inner alignment.

Holika entered the fire with ego and cruelty.
Prahlad entered with surrender and truth.

The message is sharp:

Fire does not protect ego.
Fire protects innocence.

So when we light that bonfire, we are meant to ask:

• What is my ego doing to my relationships?
  

• Where am I forcing control instead of building trust?
  

• What bitterness am I carrying like a badge?
  

• What part of me has become harsh?
  

That is what is supposed to burn.

Not people.
Not dignity.
Not boundaries.

Only poison.

Why Colors Are Not “Fun” They’re Symbolic Medicine

Now we come to colors.

Holi colors do something no lecture can do.

They disrupt identity.

On a normal day, you are a role:
Employee.
Boss.
Daughter-in-law.
Student.
Doctor.
Client.
Competitor.

On Holi, roles soften.

Everyone is equally human.
Everyone is equally imperfect.
Everyone is equally laughable.
And that is healing.

Because modern life makes us rigid.

Holi makes us fluid again.

And psychologically, that is powerful.

It breaks the inner sentence you repeat all year:

“I must look perfect.”
“I must be right.”
“I must be in control.”

On Holi, you cannot control color.

You surrender.

And surrender is therapy.

Holi’s Hidden Impact: What It Does to Your Nervous System

Let me make this truly valuable for you.

When you sing, laugh, dance, meet people, get hugged, play
your body shifts states.

Your nervous system moves from:

fight/flight/freeze → to social safety.

This is not poetry.
This is biology.

That is why after a good Holi, people feel lighter.
Not because of color.

Because for some hours, the body remembered:

“I am not alone.”
“I am allowed to relax.”
“I can belong.”

And this is why Holi matters in today’s world.

We are living in chronic stress.
We are living in silent isolation.
We are living with “high functioning sadness.”

Holi is one of the few cultural festivals that actively pushes us back into community.

Holi Is Not Permission to Hurt, The Sacred Boundary

Now, I must say this clearly.

Holi is not a license.

Not to touch without consent.
Not to force color on someone.
Not to drink and become unsafe.
Not to shame people.

A sacred festival cannot be practiced with violence.

Real Holi is when joy is clean.
When play is respectful.
When celebration is safe.

If your Holi harms someone, it is not Holi.
It is chaos wearing a festival’s name.

How to “Encode” Holi So It Changes Your Life

The Night of Holika Dahan (Fire Practice – 3 minutes)

If you want Holi to become a living teaching, do this:
Write one line on paper:

“This year, I will release __________.”

It can be resentment.
It can be jealousy.
It can be fear.
It can be self-hate.

Burn that paper safely in the fire (or at home in a safe diya flame).
And as it burns, say:

“I let this end. I am ready for a new chapter.”

That is encoding.

The Day of Colors (Relationship Practice – 2 minutes)

Pick one person and do one thing:

• Apologize sincerely.
  

• Forgive silently.
  

• Hug without talking.
  

• Send a message you’ve been delaying.

Holi is meant to repair bonds.

Not just decorate selfies.

The Day After (Integration Practice – 1 minute)

Ask yourself:

• “What felt light yesterday?”
  

• “How can I carry 5% of that light into daily life?”
  

This is how festivals become transformation.

From Me to You

If Holi stays on your skin, it ends in the bathroom.

If Holi enters your heart, it changes your year.

So this year, don’t just play.

Release something.
Repair something.
Return to someone.
Return to yourself.

That is the true celebration.

That is the real story.

That is Holi.

May this Holi burn what weighs you down and color your life with clean joy.❤️
Happy Holi my lovely beings🌈

With Love & Warmth,
Dr Monika Singh “Shubhaa

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Hello my Lovely beings,
Have you ever wondered why your child isn’t listening? Why do their behaviors feel out of control? Why do they spend more time with friends than at home, and why do their future goals seem unclear, despite all your efforts?

Or maybe you’re a parent, stuck in the painful cycle of conflict with your child, where every attempt to guide them seems to trigger a storm in the house. The tension, the frustration, and the feeling of hopelessness is what today’s parent-child dynamic looks like for many families.

And it’s becoming more common. But what’s really going on? Why does it feel like children today are drifting away from their homes, their parents, and even their own future?

Let’s break this down, because it’s time to understand the deeper issues at play.

The Parent’s Struggle – “They Just Don’t Listen”

Every parent has been there: you try to guide, correct, or discipline, but your child’s behavior only gets worse. You scold them, but it feels like they simply shut down or, worse, rebel. You wonder, “Why won’t they listen to me?”

Here’s the reality: today’s children are under pressures that we couldn’t have imagined. Peer influence, social media, and a world of distractions make it difficult for them to stay grounded.
But there’s another piece to this puzzle: emotional disconnect within the family.

When parents focus on scolding and discipline, they miss something important: the emotional needs of their child.

Imagine that a child’s behavior isn’t just rebellious; it’s often a reflection of emotional neglect. When a child feels misunderstood, unheard, or unsupported, they turn to anything that gives them a sense of freedom whether it’s friends, social media, or seeking comfort outside of home. In such cases, it’s not the child’s disobedience; it’s their emotional disconnection from home.

The Escape – “The Outside World Feels Safer Than Home”

We’ve all heard stories of children leaving home in search of freedom. But what drives this urge to escape? The truth is, for many children, the outer world feels safer than their own home.

When a home is filled with tension, unresolved issues, and constant conflict, leaving it becomes a form of liberation. But why does the world outside appear to offer what home can’t? It’s not because they don’t love their parents, it’s because, at home, they don’t feel seen, they don’t feel safe.

When parents don’t connect emotionally with their children, when they scold instead of listen, children feel unheard, and this creates an emotional chasm. This chasm becomes a reason to find solace elsewhere, even if it means drifting away from the family they love.

In reality, the outer world only appears to be a safer space. The freedom they find out there is often filled with confusion, insecurity, and fear. And these same children, when they grow older, often struggle with forming healthy, trusting relationships because of the emotional baggage they carry from home.

The Invisible Trauma – “The Battle No One Sees”

For some children, the battle is far more serious. The trauma begins before they even understand it. Parents separate, fight for custody, and, in the aftermath, things “cool down.” But does the child ever really heal from this emotional destruction?

Children aren’t just passive observers in these situations; they are living through the aftermath. Even if parents believe the storm has passed, the emotional trauma remains. It’s stored in the subconscious, lingering and affecting the child’s sense of self-worth, their relationships, and even their future parenting.

You can imagine a child growing up in a broken home carrying emotional scars from a time they didn’t even fully understand. As they grow, they might feel a profound lack of security, and this often leads them to unhealthy relationships and a life of constant anxiety. The long-term impact is real, and it doesn’t just affect one generation it gets passed on to the next.

The Root Causes: Karmic, Spiritual, and Scientific Factors

So, what’s behind all of this? Why are so many children facing these struggles? The answer lies in a mix of karmic, spiritual, and scientific factors.

1. Karmic Influence:
   Sometimes, these emotional cycles are passed down through generations. A parent’s unresolved trauma, fears, or behavioral patterns can be unconsciously inherited by their child. The child is then caught in a cycle they didn’t choose, repeating patterns they didn’t even understand.
   

2. Spiritual Disconnect:
   Spiritual neglect plays a significant role in emotional imbalance. Children today are often disconnected from their spiritual essence. They lack the tools to navigate the emotional chaos that surrounds them, and this leaves them vulnerable to stress, anxiety, and rebellion.
   

3. Scientific Understanding of Development:
   From a neurological standpoint, children’s brains are still developing, particularly their prefrontal cortex, which controls decision-making, impulse control, and emotional regulation. This means children are naturally more prone to emotional dysregulation. When combined with the pressures of modern life, it’s no wonder they struggle to find stability and purpose.

Reversing the Cycle: How Parents Can Heal and Change Their Child’s Future

Here’s the good news: change is possible. Parents can break these cycles, heal themselves, and create a more nurturing environment for their children.

1. Start with Yourself:
   Healing your own wounds is the first step. As a parent, your emotional state affects the entire family dynamic. When you work on your emotional well-being whether it’s through therapy, mindfulness, or healing past traumas you create a more peaceful and balanced environment for your child.
   

2. Rebuild Trust through Active Listening:
   Instead of reprimanding, listen. Your child needs to know that their voice matters. Create a space where they can express themselves without fear of judgment. Trust is built in these small moments of empathy.
   

3. Empathy, Not Control:
   It’s tempting to control every aspect of your child’s life. But true parenting is about guiding, not controlling. Respect their independence, validate their feelings, and empower them to make decisions. This creates emotional maturity and trust between you and your child.

A Powerful Program for Change: The Reversal Parenting Program

As we’ve explored, today’s families face many emotional challenges that affect both parents and children. The conflicts, misunderstandings, and cycles of emotional struggle can feel overwhelming at times. But the good news is, there is a way to break these patterns and create a more peaceful and understanding environment at home.

The Reversal Parenting Program is here to offer a helping hand in this process. It’s designed to guide you through healing old emotional patterns, improving communication, and building a stronger, more supportive relationship with your child.

If you’re looking for a way to make lasting, positive changes for both yourself and your family, the Reversal Parenting Program can be a valuable step towards creating a more harmonious and connected home.

Discover how the Reversal Parenting Program can help you here!
https://rebirth.birththenewearth.com/services/mniu

So my lovely beings,

Children today are facing unprecedented emotional struggles, and parents, too, are caught in the cycle of unresolved conflict. But this isn’t a hopeless situation. With conscious effort, understanding, and a willingness to heal, we can create a brighter, more balanced future for our children.

Remember, healing begins with you. By healing ourselves, practicing empathy, and fostering open communication, we not only transform our own lives but also create a ripple of positive change in our families and in the generations that follow.

May you walk this path of healing with grace and love, knowing that each step you take towards self-improvement brings your child and your family closer to peace and harmony. You are the change you seek, and together, we will create a future filled with understanding, compassion, and joy.

Blessings from my heart to yours,
Dr Monika Singh “Shubhaa”❤️

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You’re busy.

Not the cute kind of busy. The heavy kind.

The kind where the day ends and you can’t tell what you felt.

You handle roles like a pro.

You run the house. The work. The moods. The WhatsApps. The emergencies.

You remember birthdays. Deadlines. Medicines. Fees. Groceries. Everyone’s “just one small thing.”

And you do it so well…

that your own life becomes the background.

Here’s the honest truth:

Most people aren’t tired because they do too much.

They’re tired because they do too little for the person inside them.

The “unpaid intern” problem

Somewhere along the way, you hired yourself as an unpaid intern in your own life.

You work. You serve. You manage.

And your needs get told, “Wait.”

That’s why joy feels far.

Not because joy left.

Because you stopped giving it a chair at the table.

So let’s make this simple.

Take yourself out.

Not as a reward.

As maintenance.

Like charging your phone.

Like watering a plant.

Like sleep.

How to know you’ve been forgetting yourself

Read this and don’t lie:

• You do things fast, even the things you used to love.

• You feel guilty when you rest.

• You need a reason to do something fun.

• You keep saying, “After this week.” (And the week never ends.)

• You miss yourself, but you don’t know how to find yourself again.

If that’s you, my love - good.

It means you noticed.

That’s the start.

A moment from one of our Retreats

In our last retreat in Rishikesh,

A woman shared something that,

She said, “I’m a good mother. A good wife. A good daughter. A good worker.

But I don’t remember the last time I was good to myself.”

Later that day, she did one small act.

• She went out alone. No phone. No explanation.

• She ate slowly. She sat with herself.

• She didn’t perform. She didn’t rush.

And she said, “It feels like I came back to my own body.”

That’s what taking yourself out does.

It brings you back.

Self-love is not a spa. It’s permission.

Taking time for yourself doesn’t need candles.

It needs honesty.

Do what brings you back to you:

Dance.

Music.

Art.

Cooking like it’s your love language.

Reading in silence.

A slow walk.

Sitting with tea and watching the sky.

Even 30 minutes counts if it’s real.

If it’s yours.

Travel is a spiritual reset

And travel… travel is not just “a break.”

Travel is a mirror.

A new city teaches you who you are without your usual script.

Different people. Different cultures. Different energy. Different Languages

You learn to trust yourself in new streets.

You meet versions of you that don’t exist at home.

And the best part?

You come back with something that can’t be purchased.

Experience.

Not the kind you post.

The kind that stays in your bones.

The biggest trap: “Later.”

People don’t cancel plans because they don’t want them.

They cancel because they think life will wait.

• “Later.”

• “Next month.”

• “Once things settle.”

My love, things don’t settle.

You just get used to carrying them.

So choose the present.

Not perfectly.

But deliberately.

🌿 The invitation: BTNE Retreat | Mussoorie (May 2026)

If you’ve been feeling stretched thin, this retreat is for you.

Not for “fixing yourself.”